Rejection can hurt. Learning how to see the positive side of this negative situation can help anyone understand the real reason for the rejection. It may be a source of protection or maybe even a wake up call. Kelly Lyn Adams explains the ways in which rejection can help you find your new identity.
By Kelly Lynn Adams
Have you ever applied for a job that you really wanted but didn’t get? Have you ever gotten your heart broken? How about living and dealing with a disease, chronic pain or a physical aliment? Have you ever been denied on a loan or a credit card application?
We have all been rejected at some point in our lives and I want to tell you congratulations! You may be asking yourself why is this woman congratulating me on being rejected. Well, you see, rejection doesn’t necessarily mean that you have failed or that you are not good enough. Rejection happens to give you a wake up call in order to change the direction that you are going. Rejection is simply God’s Protection. Now for some of you the word “God” may freak you out so whatever it is that you believe in I want you to substitute the word “God,” it could be the Universe, a higher power, Buddha, Jesus, Madonna, or Elvis Presley. The bottom line is that rejection is protection.
I know what you might be thinking, how can rejection be protection, because when you are being rejected it doesn’t feel like any protection is going on in that particular moment. Being rejected can feel downright frustrating, disappointing and many of the times you feel like a complete failure. I totally hear you on this and as humans these are our first responses and emotions that come up when we are dealing with being rejected. However, when we are rejected in one way or another it is really the best thing that can ever happen to us, we might not think so initially, but when we look back at the situation we can always see an opportunity. So if you are stuck in contributing to your own “rejection pity party,” I want you to stop and ask yourself what are some of the opportunities in your current “rejection” situation. Once you have made the decision that you want to find the opportunity in your situation, your thinking will automatically start to shift and this will help you to move forward. The next step is to create a mantra that will help to support your new way of thinking. One great mantra that I use is, “If not this, then something or someone so much better is on its way.” Creating this new thought and mantra is so important because it literally shifts your mood, your energy and makes space for something even better to come along. You have to trust and believe that you are being supported in every moment in your life by a higher power. You were not created in this lifetime to become a failure; you were created to become a total success in life and this I know for sure (as Oprah would say).
It is your birthright to be successful and to experience unlimited health, wealth & abundance in every aspect in your life. While at times you might not feel abundant you have to trust that you are exactly where you are suppose to be and that you are well on your way to living the life you have always wanted. There are many times in my own life that I look back and I am so thankful that I got rejected; whether it was not getting a job that I so desperately wanted, not marrying that ex I was totally head over heels in love with or getting denied for a loan that I so desperately needed. In every situation that I was “rejected” something else or someone else came into my life that was so much better!
We are all here to learn and grow from our life experiences. If you are currently going through being rejected or want to be able to handle any kind of rejection that might come your way in the future I have summarized the 3 steps on how to handle rejection with more ease:
1. Feel the Funk — I want you to feel those initial feelings that come up when you experience any sort of rejection. Do not deny any of your feelings, it is so important to actually feel your initial feelings, acknowledge them and release them physically. Releasing these emotions could mean going out for a run, taking a boxing class, jumping on a trampoline or writing. Whatever way you do this you want to make sure you acknowledge and feel your feelings that come up first and then release them out of your body and back into the Universe.
2. Shift Your Thoughts — Your thoughts are very powerful! After you have felt your initial feelings and physically released them, I want you to shift your mindset and start to become thankful for being rejected and know that something or someone even better is on the way. Every time you think about the situation I want you to say the mantra “if not this then something or someone else so much better is on the way for me.”
3. Trust & Believe — Really trust and believe this new mantra. Try to embody and accept this as truth in your life as much as you can. Trusting and believing that a higher power is at work for you and through you will give you a sense of relief. Everything is working for you not against you.
“My purpose on this earth is to empower, motivate, and inspire women to live the BEST life possible, to achieve their maximum potential.” – Kelly Lynn Adams
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