I constantly hear women, including myself mentioning how they want to change a habit that isn’t benefiting them in a positive way. I can definitely relate, therefore I found three intriguing experts to help us break any type of old pattern we may have! I think we’ve covered an array of habits, so enjoy and good luck with breaking your old patterns!
1. Yo-Yo Dieting: (Amy Cohen)
If you wanted to change the old pattern of yo-yo dieting, and to truly stick to a goal, I would tell you to purchase “Wedding Bush.” It is a flower remedy from Australia that works to keep you focused on your goals. To help achieve what you want and stay committed, it works emotionally.
2. Slow Your Roll: (Amy Cohen)
If you are the type of person that takes on 1000 tasks and is always on the move and promise yourself to slow down, be more patient and spend more time with family, I may recommend “Black eyed Susan,” for slowing down and finding inner calm, or “Bush Gardenia” for deepening your relationship with family.
3. Know Your Self-worth: (Amy Cohen)
When you don’t have the confidence or self-worth to truly move forward in your life, “Five Corners” from Australia or “Larch” from Bach will truly help you to clear any self-sabatoge and work towards your goals. It will rid you of the “I’m not good enough,” or “I’m unloveable” words that play in your head and reverse those feelings. It will restore acceptance of yourself as being a woman who feels self love, acceptance, unique and special!
â€¨4. Procrastination: (Elizabeth R. Lombardo)
Understand that procrastination is caused by theâ€¨ anticipation that the activity will be unpleasant. So, take steps to make it â€¨more fun. Need to clean out your closet? Turn on some great tunes.
5. NOT Working Out: (Elizabeth R. Lombardo)
Remember your reasons WHY you want to work out (feelâ€¨ good, look good, be a good role model) and focus on THOSE rather than the â€¨reasons you don’t want to work out. Reward your good behavior (e.g., massageâ€¨ after every 20 workouts) and make exercise fun, by trying something different!
6. Perfectionism: (Elizabeth R. Lombardo)
Realize that your desire to be perfect is caused by a â€¨lack of self-confidence. Take stepsâ€¨ to increase your sense of self independence through your accomplishments.
7. Poor Work-Life Balance: (Elizabeth R. Lombardo)
While you think checking your crackberry â€¨constantly makes you a better worker, you are wrong. Just like aâ€¨ professional athlete schedules in rest (they cannot train 24/7 and still beâ€¨ good), so must you. Set guidelines for yourself that are lenient at first â€¨(I will stop work at 6 p.m. and check my emails/VM at 8 p.m. but only respond to â€¨urgent items) to help you see that the world (and your job) do not endâ€¨ because of this. And be mindful when you are with your family/friends so â€¨that you enjoy that time.
8. Train your brain: (Holly Stokes)
Habits are hard to break because they are wired in to â€¨our brain. Anything that we repeat, the brain turns into a habit. With thisâ€¨ NLP tool, you can help the brain set up a new mental pattern that willâ€¨ change the old habit with a Swish pattern from NLP (Neuro-Linguisticâ€¨ Programming).â€¨â€¨ Imagine in your mind’s eye, doing the old habit. Now, imagine what you would â€¨like to do instead of the old habit. Create some visuals of the new habit, â€¨see yourself doing the new habit. Now, imagine packaging up the new habitâ€¨ into a ball of light and send it out into the distance. Now, imagine doing â€¨the old habit again. As you imagine doing the old habit, imagine that brightâ€¨ball of light coming back and exploding in front of you, with the image ofâ€¨ doing the new habit, see yourself doing the new habit. Repeat this about eight â€¨times and it will set up a pattern interrupt in your brain, so you’ve â€¨created a new connection between the old habit and the new behavior.
9. Replace: (Holly Stokes)
Find a replacement for the old habit. Some of the old habits we do, we â€¨simply need to replace it with a new habit. For example, instead of bitingâ€¨ your fingernails, wringing your hands would be a better alternative. Insteadâ€¨ of smoking a cigarette, it could be replaced by breathing deeply.
10. Buddy Up: (Holly Stokes)
Get a buddy to help you notice or be aware of the habit. Sometimes when â€¨habits are deeply ingrained, we don’t notice that we are doing them. Havingâ€¨ a buddy, a spouse, or coworker offer reminders can help you notice the habit â€¨so that you can change it.
Thank you to our participating Experts!
Amy Cohen, BFRP- is a Flower Remedies Practitioner who focuses on emotional healing. She is an accredited teacher for Australian Bush Flower Essences, teaching at colleges throughout the U.S. And Canada.
Elizabeth R. Lombardo, Ph.D., M.S., P.T – A psychologist, physical therapist and author of the bestselling book Aâ€¨ Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness, I help people create â€¨the lives they want to live.
Holly Stokes – The Brain Trainer works with clients all across the U.S.â€¨helping them change the negative habits and patterns of their lives. She hasâ€¨written several programs to give people the freedom to change old patternsâ€¨including, A Lighter You Weight Loss System, Breathe Free Stop Smoking CD,â€¨ Re-Wire your Brain for Wealth and Prosperity, and more. She is a Certified â€¨Life Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, and Clinical Hypnotherapist.