Welcome to our one and only poetry column by Michele Wroblewski. Michele aims to show people that although painstaking to endure, challenges faced in life should be received in gratitude, for they produce the powerful product of a strong, independent, and self confident individual that is prepared to face the world.
“Just because someone decided to lose faith in you, does not mean you are entitled to lose faith in yourself.”- Michele Wroblewski
Some of hardest, most soul deteriorating events in life are the ones that leave you with no explanation. They are solely responsible for keeping you up at night, troubling you in your dreams and waking you up in a clammy, panic stricken sweat. They force you into the practice of accepting, finding a way to tolerate what is not to your liking. It seems that countless tears will forever drown you, burning your eyes so that the light that has always been ignited inside you begins to dim. Hauntings of past memories and pivotal moments of endearing love seem forever imprisoned in your heart-broken mind. These beautiful, passionate memories driven by love, compassion, understanding, ultimate trust, and faith in another person will not fade over night. It may take a year, two years, or a just a few weeks to stop the crippling, incessant ache that has taken residence in your chest.
There is no cure for a broken heart, although we may wish one did exist. Memories connected with your happiest times in life, movies, and songs; it takes courage and faith to move forward. No amount of comforting words can take away the pain. Additional guys will not erase what has been broken. Actions can numb the pain, but it will not go away unless you finally submit yourself to what you are feeling: immense disappointment and destruction. The biggest lesson in life and love is this: you cannot make someone want to be with you, you cannot make someone love you, and you cannot make someone stay by your side in your darkest times. Sometimes the hardest thing to face in life is the truth, but everyone’s got to do it at some point.
And once you have tried everything in your power to fight for who you want? You need to let go, for it is not fair to yourself, or anyone else who wants to make you happy. Yes, you may have gotten really good at welcoming the unattainable in your life. You go after what you can’t have, being so used to rejection, that it is your only comfort. As a plot twist however, someone comes along that will show you everything you only fantasized to be true about being with a person.
You must have respect for yourself and your life. So what’s the next step? Pull out the songs, old text messages, movies, quotes, pictures, that remind you of him. Then? Cry. Scream. Write down how you feel. Curl up in a ball, and allow yourself to feel. Allow yourself to welcome the pain, manifest and take notice to every emotion. Get angry. Once you come to terms with your emotions, you come to terms with yourself. Each day will get a little easier, and you will begin to notice that you no longer cry at the thought of losing him; he is already gone. You stop thinking he’s the one; does the one let you get away? No. Never. And even if you have hopes that he will come back to you, why worry and wait when you have no control over his brain? You will no longer feel a wave of depression when “your song” comes on the iPod, no longer feel broken or lonesome when he has gone away; he chose that. You didn’t. In time, those songs will remain your favorite if they were prior to the relationship, those movies will be the movies you take out to watch. You will desensitize the objects that were once expressions of love.
Then one day? You will wake up realizing you made the best decision of your life, for you chose to not live in the shadow and hopes of someone else’s happiness, but in the spotlight of your own life. Easier said than done, but the best I can tell you is this: if someone is meant to be with you, they will come around and fight for you, but don’t you dare wait around. If it happens, it happens. If you move on, it will be too late for them. Life is not a race when it comes to love.
Pain stems from the heart; love and pain are always one in the same. What’s worth the wait, is always worth the journey. What’s worth the struggle? Well that you will tell in time. Keep yourself in the game. Once you learn to understand that the journey of love involves pain…who am I kidding. It can never be understood why people experience pain. The theories? To learn, to grow, to be able to teach, to guide you to what’s right, to make you stronger. Pain will always exist. Don’t over think. Happiness will come when you least expect it. Don’t deny the beauty of what happened, but trust there was a reason.
“The rain is pouring down on me. Freedom is what I need. I may not have the answers for tomorrow, and time is only ours to borrow. The sky may control when it rains, and the earth may control when it shakes. And the world may crumble at our feet, but love will always give us what we need.” -Michele Wroblewski
The Only One
You can say that the truth sounds funny, but it doesn’t sound funny to me.
You may say that my life was lost, stuck here, I bleed.
I could say that it’s not the same, this time around.
You’ll still say that it’s easier, to let him go now.
But I can’t control my heart, can’t tell it how to feel.
All I know is that I want him now, just the same.
What can I do?
How can I leave?
When he’s like home to me.
I try to run, but every time,
I stop and he’s by my side.
I wish I knew why.
My fairy tale is ending now,
Was it ever really there?
A lifetime of ifs and buts,
Leads to nothing but tears.
If you want it now, then you’ve got to prove,
Why I shouldn’t get over you.
Cause my bags are packed,
My shoes are on,
I’m walking out that door.
Cause this is my life,
It’s my time to choose,
Then I turned and looked at you….
You may say that the truth sounds funny, but it doesn’t sound funny to me.
You may say that my life was lost, stuck here, I bleed.
I could say that it’s not the same, this time around.
You’ll still say that it’s easier, to let him go now.
But I can’t control my heart, can’t tell it how to feel.
All I know is that I want him now, just the same.
What can I do?
How can I leave?
When he’s like home to me.
I try to run, but every time,
I stop and he’s by my side.
I wish I knew why.
If you want it now, then you’ve got to prove,
Why I shouldn’t get over you.
Cause my bags are packed,
My shoes are on,
I’m walking out that door.
Cause this is my life,
It’s my time to choose,
Then I turned and looked at you….
You are every song I write,
Thoughts of you keep me up at night,
I dream that you are the only one…
But if you don’t fight? I’m done.
*This is a song written by me. If anyone would like to hear it, just contact me.
Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.
What have you accepted in your life that took time, physically or mentally?
I’ve learned that sometimes, giving your best is all you can do. Sometimes, there is a bigger plan for you than what you want in life.
What do you appreciate about yourself and within your life?
No matter what hardships life brings me, I still manage to smile for the majority of my day. Sometimes, I smile so much that my face hurts, but I’m not complaining. 😀
What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What goals do you still have?
One of my most rewarding achievements in life is the ability to be able to march forward, even when something does not feel right in life. I always keep my positivity, and most importantly, my faith in my life and my happiness. I am always true to myself. My goal is to never wander off the path that I have worked so hard to build.
What is your not-so-perfect way? What imperfections and quirks create your Identity?
My not-so-perfect way is that I do not really know what I want from life yet, but this is not necessarily a bad thing. I allow myself to be blown where the wind takes me, and I adore the idea of spontaneity. I allow the universe to bring to me what I am ready to handle. My ability to accept what I can’t change creates my identity. I always have a way of turning the ugly of life into something magnificently beautiful.
How would you complete the phrase “I Love My…?”
Ability to love. I love that even after the heart breaks that I have endured, whether with myself or with others, I have always bounced back higher than before. I have learned from every sharp rock that has reared its ugly head into my path. However, adversity is always welcomed in my book, because hardship in my life is always followed by success. And who doesn’t want that growth for themselves?
