Happy emotional endings would occur more frequently if we didn’t abandon our emotions due to the insecurity that we are wrong about our desires, and shouldn’t stay true to ourselves.
What are the composite parts of all of us? Our emotions/feelings, our minds/thoughts, our spirit/beliefs, and our physical bodies…
Over the years, beliefs and thoughts evolve (different belief systems, a change of one’s mind), but feelings seem to be the most mysterious and changeable of all. If not pushed into the unconscious, they make up a huge part of our personality. Many of us feel uncomfortable with their instability and changeability and tend to ignore them, push them away, or look at them as unreasonable and unattainable.
Abandonment of the self is when we don’t create a balance in honoring all four parts. We abuse our bodies, we criticize our minds, we ignore our feelings and we sublimate our spirits.
Interestingly enough, time has a lot to do with it. We may begin anything new with strong and certain feelings, great intentions and great faith. But as the years, or months, or even days roll on, if we don’t get our expectations met within our own conscious or unconscious time frames, we start to lose the faith, feeling and inclination.
On a daily level, this pertains to our desires and wishes. On a long-term level, it is the hazard of maturing and becoming jaded toward ourselves, others and the world around us — to minimize and limit potential.
There is no way to change or fight the timing of things. We must accede to universal power. Our time frames, unbeknownst to us, may not be conducive or in alignment with the karmic timing.
If time elapses and feelings fade, let them go. The way to know if they are true is that they will return of their own accord, as long as they are not denied or repressed. Let them return willingly, because they are real and have life. Don’t try to control them.
Do not despair and think that you have feelings for something futile and unattainable. If the feelings return, you should have faith in the veracity of bringing the desire to fruition in one’s world. Something positive will come out of being supportive of them, even if it is not what you intended.
Happy emotional endings would occur more frequently if we didn’t abandon our emotions due to the insecurity that we are wrong about our desires, and shouldn’t stay true to ourselves.
This vacillation of emotional back and forth, and its resulting mental and spiritual shifts is a process that should be respected, as eventually things will stabilize once you give your feelings permission to breathe. Don’t stress about needing to pin them down.
The fruition of this labor is finding one’s true heart rather than abandoning ourselves. Let us never lose our youthful optimism, nurture our heart’s desires and wishes, and help ourselves and our world grow into what we wish it to become.
Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.
What have you accepted in your life that took time, physically or mentally?
Accepting that some efforts take longer to achieve than others and one must be patient!
What do you appreciate about yourself and within your life?
I appreciate my individualism and the way it helps me lead a productive unusual life.
What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What goals do you still have?
Using a computer, after being resistant to it for so long, has opened many doors despite the painful learning experience. I still have trouble!
What is your not-so-perfect way? What imperfections and quirks create your Identity?
Being an individual is a quirk. Most people prefer to blend in and that is not important to me.
How would you complete the phrase “I Love My…?”
I love my life, and all parts of it — the hard parts as well as the fun!
