Reality is Always Working in Your Favor

What is Reality
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Written by Lorna Anne

Some, rather than controlling reality, let reality control them.

Most of us have agendas for our realities, in that we want things to go a certain way. Not only concerning the eventual fulfillment of our wishes, but also in terms of how events evolve to fulfill those wishes.

We want control of what is happening to us and around us because the more we can control, the safer we feel.

Some, rather than controlling reality, let reality control them. If it doesn’t seem to be supportive of their desires, then some will throw their desire out and adopt a new one which conforms more closely with how the current reality looks.

But we must realize that things are not always as they appear, and counting on face-value realities to guide us is a mistake. To not want what we want because things don’t go exactly the way we expect them to, is a deception.

Dealing with things that are not ideal is the necessary challenge to make us stronger. Our job is to transform them so they are. These difficult obstacles are what we need to work through in order to get our desired outcome. It is our lesson.

Life is a school and difficult things happen to teach us faith in ourselves, our individual paths, and our ability to create our life. To feel abandoned and alienated because things seem to be working against us is, once again, a misconception. Things may be tough, but life will still take us to the destination we want if we tough it out and keep the faith that it will.

If we are met with flat rejection from our reality, (if something should make the possibility irrevocably impossible, for instance, expiration of deadlines), then one of three things is happening:

1) What we think we want, we don’t really want. We only wanted it for safety’s sake. Or we really aren’t certain of what we want.

2) Maybe our wants are true in our hearts, but if we saw the bigger picture of the future, we wouldn’t want it.

In both these cases, being denied our desire is actually protecting us from a wrong choice. 3) We are caught in the paradox of punishment and thinking that we’re undeserving. This can be a stumbling block throughout a lifetime, that will prevent our wishes from fulfillment until we can see our intrinsic worth. In that case, reality will continue to present opportunities in hopes of overcoming this weakness.

So when things don’t go as planned, do not abandon your hopes and wishes; but rather, believe that things will eventually turn themselves around.

That will open the door to miracles, serendipitous events and lucky breaks. When we view things from this perspective, we will see that reality is always working in our favor.

Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?

That it is best to let life unfold by itself and on its own as much as possible.

What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?

 The beauty of the earth I am fortunate to live on.

What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?

Staying physically fit and to continue that way.

We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth–we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

Maybe being honest and speaking the truth in this world is considered not so perfect, but it’s the only way.

“I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!)

Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?

I love my life!

About the author

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Lorna Anne

Lorna Anne received a psychology degree from the University of New Hampshire. Much of her knowledge comes from her own private esoteric studies of ancient documents of wisdom. She has been a practicing counselor for more than 20 years in New Orleans, Honolulu, and Washington state where she spent several years studying dream interpretation with a Jungian therapist. She currently resides in Chatham, Ma, and counsels either in person or on the phone. For inquiries, please contact Lorna via E-mail at, or on Face book a

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