The year is coming to an end so there is no better time to release and let go all the unwanted stress, regret, or disappointment from being too hard on ourselves.
“Once you release and let go, things start to flow.”
— Susan Vernicek
As we grow in age we tend to have more stress, burdens, thoughts, decisions, fears, drama, and possibly less dreams. Or we have dreams, but they fall low on the totem pole because we feel our dreams aren’t important or we don’t have faith that they can become a reality.
I believe releasing and letting go is like spring cleaning–getting rid of the unwanted, old, damage, and dirt. We should use the end of the year as a time to reflect on our life and thoughts. Then gather and let go of the unwanted, dirt, damage, crap, negativity–you get the point. You can find your own creative way to release and let go. Maybe you run every a mile for every release or you journal your thoughts and feelings allowing you to let go and never think or speak of those again.
I’ve become quite good at purging. I frequently release and let go of my thoughts and material belongings. When it feels like the right time to purge, I go through my office, closet, files, and clothes. Then I go through my thoughts and dreams as I move forward in starting a family, a new year, or being a new mom.
Example: I have a ton of vision boards and journal entries on what I want with my life, with my money, and with my dreams, and anything else I can envision. I then create vision boards based on these visions and it helps with a fresh start and a goal to reach and hopefully succeed.
This is what life is about, right? We go through so many stages in life that require shifts in our thoughts, actions, and goals. Tell me, are you at a point to let go and move on? Are you looking to let go of a thought or a past experience? Is it time to spruce up your dreams and goals?
It’s never too late to make changes in your life, so take some time to reflect and decide if there is anything in your life or your mind that you need to let go of and move forward.
Here are 6 initial steps to get you started:
1. Are you ready for a new job or new career? Let go of the thought that you can’t, or that there are no job openings. Let go of that thought and get your resume freshened up, or start that one-page business plan you’ve wanted to do. Never say you can’t and always believe it’s never too late. You just have to take the first step, which is the most challenging. After the first step in any process the second and third come naturally.
2. Ready to say goodbye to Ms. Negative Nancy? Remove the negative thoughts by writing them down because this is a huge releasing method. Reflect on what has been making you happy and what makes you happy. There is science behind happiness and studies that show an increase in happiness to those that journal or reflect every single day. Try to write or reflect on your happiness and gratitude for 15 days straight and see how you feel. Focus on one thing each day and support that gratitude with 5 supporting and descriptive sentences.
3. Have you been hanging on to the past? An ex-boyfriend, an old friend, or an old life, let go if it’s holding you back. Life is supposed to move forward, push us to grow and discover our capabilities. Let go of the past; find your future of happiness.
4. Are you angry? Let go of your anger because it’s not serving you. What helps you release anger? The gym, a therapist, writing, dancing, or sharing with a friend? Go ahead and vent, let it out and let it go because anger only hurts your core and soul. Discover what actions you can take to help heal and release your anger.
5. Are you feeling guilty? Guilt doesn’t serve our character. Why do you feel guilty and why are you hanging on to it? Know that there is no shame in feeling guilty, but the work is learning why and what is triggering your guilt. Again, I’m a huge believer in finding a therapist to work through emotions. I’m big on talking things out and finding the root cause.
6. Are you feeling Jealous? Just like anger and guilt, jealously does not serve our character. Nobody has ever been in a better situation because of jealousy. It’s an ugly feeling and useless. To be frank, grow the confidence to let go of jealousy because it’s ugly all around.
These are just a few possible thoughts that may be going on in your life that you need to release and let go because they are not serving you, and as Oprah would say–not helping you live your best life.
Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.
What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?
I’ve accepted my new body after giving birth to twins. I’ve accepted that it takes time to build your physical strength after birth and it’s better to take your time because over stressing our mind and body can lead to other issues…like Bell’s Palsy for instance. I’m still recovering, but now know not to push myself and allow myself time to heal.
What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?
I appreciate reading all the “new mom” articles and blogs. It’s great to be able to resonate with other mothers and I appreciate those writers sharing their vulnerability–including myself 🙂
What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?
Giving birth to two healthy babies is on my list now, and my goals are to continue to feed my soul so I can continue to be a great Mother.
We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth–we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?
I try to be super mom too much and show the world I can achieve great things while being a mom. Sometimes, I need to realize that I can slow down and taking a nap with the twins during the day does not mean I am lazy.
“I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!)
Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?
I love my sometimes creative, crafty side.