Valentine’s Day is arguably the most romantic holiday our culture celebrates – even though its origins are pretty dark and somber – and joining in with the happy throngs of starry-eyed couples is great, so long as you’re in a happy relationship. However, for those who aren’t, Valentine’s Day is often little more than a reminder that not everything in your life is up to snuff.
Thankfully, Valentine’s Day can easily be construed as a celebration of love for anyone, which means the uncoupled needn’t don mourning clothes when the middle of February rolls around. Here are five ideas for every single girl who wants to have a fabulous and memorable Valentine’s Day.
1. Throw an Anti-Valentine’s Day Party
Without resorting to cynicism or self-pity, throwing a no-holds-barred Anti-Valentine’s Day Party for your single friends is a great way to mark the holiday of love. Whether you invite only the gals, or you make it a shindig that includes gents is up to you, but a proper Anti-Valentine’s Day party must have all the fixings of a stellar get-together to ensure everyone who attends actually feels lucky their lack-of-a-better-half got them invited. Fun mocktails, hors d’oeuvres, upbeat music, and broken heart-inspired decorations are a must.
Make sure you also look the part of the happily uncoupled by buying a fabulous dress online and going all-out with your hair and makeup. Plan a ritual or two of letting go of past loves that didn’t work out, and if it’s a ladies’ only soiree, set aside some dedicated time to dish about crushes. Overall, however, make sure your Anti-V Day Party is a celebration of a life lived and enjoyed to its fullest – with or without romance.
2. Go to Dinner at the Nicest Restaurant in Town
Pick the place you’d love to eat dinner if you were able attending prom with the boy of your dreams, and make a reservation. Invite a friend, your sister, your mother, or your favorite aunt to join you for an unforgettable meal. When you arrive, order with abandon. Drink too much soda, and don’t skip dessert. Flirt with your waiter. Exchange gifts with your companion. However you spend the time, make sure you notice how food that’s well-sourced and well-prepared tastes good and feels luxurious regardless of whether or not you’re in a relationship.
3. Go on Your Ideal Date With Your Best, Single Girlfriend
Have you ever wanted to catch a classic movie at the historic theater downtown? What about horseback riding for the afternoon? This Valentine’s Day, don’t waste any more time putting off the experience you’ve always wanted to have, because you believe it should only be shared with a significant other.
Instead, grab your best, single girlfriend and plan a day or weekend that incorporates both of your ideal date scenarios. Life is too short to wait around for a Prince or Princess Charming to join you in having the time of your life. Instead, make use of Valentine’s Day to remedy the situation by having the time of your life right now.
Especially for the single girl nursing a broken heart, spending some time volunteering to help those less fortunate on Valentine’s Day can provide some much-needed perspective. Check in with domestic violence shelters in your town and find out how you can practically help out. See if you can wash dishes in a local soup kitchen. Donate your time to drive seniors to and from doctor’s appointments.
However you do it, find a way to give your time and energy to people who need a little help. It won’t change the fact that you’re nursing a broken heart, but it will bring you a much-needed dose of gratitude for all the good things in your life.
5. Treat Yourself
Another great way to spend Valentine’s Day if you’re single is to spend the day pampering yourself. While couples agonize over getting their loved one the perfect gift, you don’t have to wonder about the ways in which you would like to be spoiled. Schedule a massage and a mani-pedi. Get your hair cut and styled by the best stylist in town. In whatever way you prefer, show yourself a tremendous amount of love by giving yourself gifts that make you feel special.
So, don’t worry about being single this Valentine’s Day. From hosting an Anti-Valentine’s Day party to going on your ideal date with a close friend, the holiday of romance can be just as exciting for the single ladies as it is for the ladies in a happy relationship.
Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.
What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?
As I started to work as a movement therapist later in life, it helped me to accept the limitations of my body but also to discover new possibilities, both physically and mentally. I now see myself as a whole rather than a sum of body parts connected to a brain!
What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?
It’s like I just said, instead of focusing on the small body parts I don’t like — my ankles for example — I have learnt that they’re wonderful instruments which make me walk! I am more flexible: Instead of thinking “I can never do that”, now I think “I’m not ready yet”. It helps immensely.
What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?
It might sound silly but I learned to swim! I was always afraid of water after a bad childhood experience. After I found a wonderful swimming teacher, I could let me fears go and enjoy the water for the first time! I have so many goals and dreams…. but they are always evolving. The next goal is to take a course on homeopathy.
We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth–we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?
Oh, too many to tell! The biggest may be procrastination and poor decision making… That’s why playing games like poker is a good thing for me, as you have to make quick decisions!
“I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!)
Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?
I Love My baking! I love putting a smile on my children’s faces when they come back from school and smell the chocolate cake which just came out of the oven.