How to Raise Confident, Well-Adjusted Kids

Raising Confident Kids
Written by Christina Moore

It’s hard to encourage your child to accept his or her unique characteristics when you can’t accept your own.

Raising strong, self-confident children is a primary goal for most parents. Discover a few tips and tricks on below and create confident kids.

From learning to accepting themselves and others to embracing growth and change, giving our children the emotional support they need is essential to raising happy, stable adults. However, with all the issues kids face today, maintaining self-esteem and good mental health is often a challenge. Thankfully, though, there are ways parents can help. Keep reading to find out how.

Lead by Example

Since children learn self-esteem and other behaviors by example, it’s important for parents to practice what they preach. After all, it’s hard to encourage your child to accept his or her unique characteristics when you can’t accept your own. To boost your child’s confidence, be sure to acknowledge your own strengths and avoid any negative self-talk.

Give Appropriate Praise

It’s easy to praise a child’s every move, but offering appropriate praise is a little more difficult. Over-praising your child can often backfire, as kids can become desensitized to it, or, worse, get the idea that they don’t have to work hard to achieve their goals. Also, instead of giving general encouragements, go into detail when it comes to praising your kids. For example, instead of saying something like, “Great job on your math test,” acknowledge his hard work by praising his study habits and test-taking skills.

Encourage Realistic Goal-Setting

Of course, we all believe that our children can do anything they set their minds to. And while this is true in theory, it’s a little more unrealistic in practice. Let’s say, for example, that your child excels at sports. Instead of encouraging her to set her sights on the Olympics, help her to set clear, specific goals that are a little easier to achieve. By breaking up large objectives into manageable tasks, kids will get the boost in confidence they need to succeed. To really enhance self-confidence, be sure to celebrate all the small victories on the road to the big prize!

Address Issues as they Arise

Kids today face enormous pressures, especially when it comes to academics and social interaction. Issues like bullying, difficulties with schoolwork and trouble at home often arise, which, if left unchecked, can snowball into even bigger problems. Addressing these issues as quickly as possible can prevent a worsening of problems, as well as give your child the coping skills necessary to a happy, healthy childhood or adolescence. And while there are many ways to handle these and other problems, counseling for your child or family can be extremely beneficial. Find a therapist near you at

Give Your Child Responsibilities

Giving your child age-appropriate chores and responsibilities is a great way to boost their feelings of competence, as well as promote better time-management and problem-solving skills. Younger kids should have no problem with chores like feeding pets, picking up toys or setting the table, while older children can be assigned tasks like laundry, dishes and taking out the trash.

Take an Active Interest

No matter your child’s interests or activities, having parents play an active role in their lives can only lead to feelings of acceptance and accomplishment. And while it can be tough to juggle schedules and activities, making a consistent effort to show up for your child will show her she is loved and supported, no matter what.

We all want happy, confident, well-adjusted children. And though today’s society isn’t always conducive to acceptance and self-confidence, the tips provided here can help you enhance your child’s self-esteem, and lay the groundwork for a healthy self-image and positive outlook on life.

Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the above article. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?

Going back to school and also choosing to work for myself.

What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?

My work ethic and the determination I’ve had throughout my professional career.

What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?

Achieving my education at an accelerated pace. Start a family!

We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth–we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

I can be a a little too worrisome sometimes and cause myself to become stressed out.

“I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!) Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

I love my positive outlook on life and the huge heart I carry with me daily filled with nothing but compassion for others and a willingness to always be learning something new.

About the author

Christina Moore

Christina Moore is a part time blogger and full time adventurer! Originally from the east coast, she now resides in San Diego. If she's not writing you can find her on the beach soaking up the sun.

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