Tools for Better Communication in Your Life

Alissa Okrent
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Written by Alissa Okrent

There are so many ways to communicate these days. Practicing better communication can only help, right? Below are a few tools for better communication in your life.

There are so many ways to communicate these days.  Practicing better communication can only help, right? Below are a few tools for better communication in your life.

I felt like I was looking through sparkling crystal as I read an email which brought tears to my eyes. Has this ever happened to you? My heart was overflowing with appreciation and it shows how powerful communication can be.

Communication: It can be powerful, meaningful, unsettling or critically important; yet at times, written communication is one form of expressing appreciation that may be under-utilized.

When I write, I feel that I am sitting directly besides  that person, sharing my emotional connection–a “virtual’ coffee. I am able to take a precious moment and appreciate this relationship in my life.  How many times in the last month have you conveyed your feelings in writing?

There is a science behind the technique of writing:

Henriette Anne Klauser, in her article: “Why You Learn More Effectively by Writing Than Typing” says that “Writing triggers the RAS (Reticular Activating System), which in turn sends a signal to the cerebral cortex–’Wake up! Pay attention!”

It is my experience that long hand writing is a process which engages our emotional and spiritual energy, guiding and creating a deeper connection with our inner voice (compass). As part of knowing your energetic blueprint, communication via the pillar of writing is a key component. Maybe today is a perfect time to reset this button and use the act of writing to deepen your focus on a project or to start a new one.

Scan Your Day: Where are you investing energy and time in social media, TV, chatting with friends, pushing the “snooze’ button again and again? It is a choice, and I love to experience those social contacts as well; yet where is the balance and real communication?

During the next month, for 21 days, would you be willing to explore one new habit to connect you more fully with your heartfelt Communication? Below are a few simple ways:

– A gratitude journal, write 3-5 sentences (beginning or end of day). Before checking emails, take 5-7 minutes and plan or quantify your day – meetings, calls, breaks, and scheduling a few minutes of personal time.
– Before you leave the office or desk, write 3-5 sentences reviewing your day, noting exchanges, moments of ease, or simply the flow of your day.
– Send a note to a friend, or someone you care about, for no reason other than connecting.

These are just a few simple examples of opportunities to write. Simple communications like these shifted my perspective and I am able to appreciate my own feelings of frustration, self-doubt, uneasiness, or simply feeling disconnected with a more loving heart.

Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?

I am accepting that each season of my life, brings new learning.   It’s true!   Right now, I am facing my own fear of   moving out of my “comfort zone” .   I am a wonderful motivational speaker, that is experiencing personal fear of asking to be in front of an audience.   Each time I do speak, I love it!!   So, why the struggle?   I am realizing that accepting this fear of asking, is holding me back.   In this season of change, I am facing “accepting my fear of acceptance”; one conversation   at a time.

What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?  

What I appreciate in me is a the ability to reflect on my life, especially my childhood, and realize I have always faced my fears at some point.   I accept that the process of realizing and then changing that internal knowing, is triggered by a major shift in my adult perception….. and then I have to choose, what to accept to leave behind emotionally, and what I am taking moving forward.

What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?

As I reflect on this question, at this time of year, I have just completed my first Webinar.       I am truly proud of myself, facing the fears of technology, self-doubt, and procrastination.     I asked or help in the “how to”, and then set about to write and deliver the information!   i give myself a big “Woohoo” for that.

We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth–we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

I am smiling as I write this….. each time I answer this question, I am amazed as what unique piece of me comes forward…. I love to try new “things”…. my husband might say I have many “unfinished” projects.   I laugh — they are simply new ways to explore another person’s passion — so this month, I am attempting to do Soduko puzzles!   Can I do them without checking the back…absolutely not!   I try as best I can, and then I do use a bit of help.

“I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!)

Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?  

I love to sing and drive!   I will change radio channels to find music I know and love, to sing loudly, on-key, off key, be inspired by the lyrics, and I ask my children what stations they listen to allowing me to expand my experience.   that is how I was introduced to “alt nation” radio.   Sometimes, it’s too much for me, so I return to my coffee house station.   Still, I love that I really do enjoy all kinds of music, and surprise myself at styles that I thought would never bring joy to my heart!

About the author

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Alissa Okrent

Alissa has 25 years of experience as a fitness and wellness professional. She received a BCC credential in Life Coaching, a certified fitness trainer through American Council on Exercise since 1987 and most recently has completed her Master Certification as a Soul Language Practitioner. Through her own life’s journey, Alissa has evolved a passion and commitment to sharing her special gift for overcoming day-to-day struggles, defusing tension, relaxing, laughing and moving with grace and ease by aligning mind, body and spirit. She now shares this gift with you!.