How To Change A Life

Written by Beate Chelette

I believe teachers and trainers carry a great amount of responsibility. We must take our jobs very seriously because the lives, businesses, and emotional wellbeing of other people are at stake. Sanjida’s message was another reminder of my responsibility. Before I tell you the rest of her story, I’d like to share a story of my own with you…

The first time I taught a three-day business-building course through CreativeLive (an online learning platform), the response was overwhelming. I received no less than 200 messages about my course from across all my social network platforms.

Feedback is what trainers and business building experts like me look for. To be honest with you, I am a huge sucker for thank you notes and messages from people who tell me about the differences in their lives that I helped inspire. I have learned it can take just one story, just one sentence, and sometimes just one word to trigger a person to spring into action. Often this one thing is the catalyst for a huge life change.

In the feedback I received from my CreativeLive course, there was a note from a woman named Sanjida who lives in Bangladesh. She told me she had stayed up all night to listen to the free live broadcast of my course because she had no way to purchase the course download to watch later. It’s not easy for Sanjida to get a credit card and she couldn’t pay by PayPal–and she was broke anyway. But, what Sanjida does have is a burning desire to make her business happen. She felt she needed the course materials and lessons I shared to systematically build her idea into a viable business strategy. Sanjida sacrificed three nights of sleep to hear what I had to say.

I believe teachers and trainers carry a great amount of responsibility. We must take our jobs very seriously because the lives, businesses, and emotional wellbeing of other people are at stake. Sanjida’s message was another reminder of my responsibility. Before I tell you the rest of her story, I’d like to share a story of my own with you…

I will always thank the remarkable Brian Tracy for being the first person to teach me the lesson that every person matters. I was Brian’s ‘celebrity’ wrangler during Craig Duswalt’s Rockstar Bootcamp. After his talk, it was my job to ensure Brian got to his car and drove away without being mobbed by fans. What happened instead was a life lesson for me.

It’s easy to assume that people who have achieved celebrity status are unapproachable. That couldn’t be farther from the truth. People who have ‘made it’ are usually very nice and professional. They truly appreciate and care about their fans.

As we were walking through the conference building toward the valet parking, Brian was approached every 10 feet by someone with a question or with a book in hand that they wanted him to read.

Brian’s reaction was not at all what I expected.

He listened with great patience and sincere interest to each person he met, even though it significantly delayed his departure. When I finally reminded him that he only needed to say the word and I would whisk away his fans so he could get on his way, Brian just shook his head and said simply, “Every person matters.”

Those three words changed my life.

How to Change a Life - Beate CheletteFast-forward to my CreativeLive workshop and back to what I want to tell you about Sanjida. Instead of telling me a sob story about her tough situation and feeling sorry for herself, Sanjida reminded me that during the course I said I like to barter deals. That’s true–I barter deals all the time. Sanjida mustered up the courage and presented her own barter proposal to me. She had done some research and correctly realized I don’t convert many of my quotes into image tiles. She offered to do this for me in exchange for access to my course so she could re-watch it and work through the materials. Sanjida sent me a few image tile samples to show me what she can do even before we had an agreement.

I was blown away. It takes a specific kind of person and attitude to “lean far out of the window” like this. Sanjida doesn’t seem to suffer from the silent career killer. I am grateful Sanjida gave me the opportunity to help her succeed.

She seems to think I matter, too. Needless to say, I am taking her up on her offer and will do this barter deal. How can I not?

What a great life lesson. When we demonstrate our willingness to make things happen and we focus on providing a genuine service to people–magic follows. Sanjida knew what she wanted, she asked for it, she got creative, and she succeeded.

I have a huge grin on my face as I sit here and write this. Thank you, Sanjida, for believing in yourself, having the courage to approach me, and for reminding me that every person matters.

How to Change a Live - Beate CheletteIdentity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.I  

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?

I receive a lot of wonderful feedback from my blogs and trainings. Once in a while I also get messages from people who disagree with me or question my statements. Although I’d like to hear nice things from everyone all of the time, it’s the critical feedback that keeps me on my toes and pushes me harder towards my goals.

2. What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?

My learning never ends. I love that I can still be pleasantly surprised by people and motivated by their actions.

3. What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?

I am over-the-moon proud of people who find their paths to success with the help of my courses and tips. It’s not easy being an entrepreneur and it’s tempting to just give up when things get tough. The ones who give it their all deserve the rewards.

4. We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth–we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

At the end of a tough day, I like to crank up the music, take off my shoes, and just let my body dance around the kitchen while I’m preparing dinner. I probably look a little nuts, but it’s a great stress relief!

5. “I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!)  

Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

…tribe of friends, strong women, and eager entrepreneurs. Thank you for making my life interesting, fun, and rewarding!

About the author

Beate Chelette

At heart, I’m an entrepreneur and I’m at my best when coming up with ideas for new companies, polishing those ideas, and working with a team to implement them.
In the workplace, I have learned to overcome numerous obstacles including corporate treachery, sabotaging coworkers, and dysfunctional teams. I found ways to succeed in my professional life while my personal life fell apart. These are the experiences that now shape my coaching and consulting programs.
My latest passion is to help others through my programs. When I am not on the road sharing The Women’s Code, I work with private and corporate clients and assist them to build their businesses and train their teams.