Chasing The Dreams That Scare You

I’m on a mission to tackle a list of 52 dreams and goals in 2016—one for each week of the year. Some will be fun, some will require hard work, some might not happen at all, and some will push me out of my comfort zone.

I’m on a mission to tackle a list of 52 dreams and goals in 2016–one for each week of the year. Some will be fun, some will require hard work, some might not happen at all, and some will push me out of my comfort zone. All will require me to be committed and consistent and to remember to live each moment of life to the fullest.

I’m inviting you to join me.

What goals and dreams do you have? Have you taken the time to write them down? Which ones scare you? You know, the ones that cause that negative little voice in your head to spew nonsense? The ones that you have “failed” at in the past? The audacious dreams that put you in the spotlight, and make you squirm, because if they did come true, your life would change forever?

Yeah…those dreams. Let’s spend some time with them today.

I spent the entire 2014 calendar year qualifying for the 2015 NYC Marathon. I was committed. I was focused. I was determined. At one point, during one of the qualifying 1/2 marathons, I pulled a calf muscle and was forced to walk the last few miles. This required me to push my pride aside and just finish the damn race.

There were days I didn’t feel like training, and there were days I was frustrated with my lack of progress. But, in the end, because I was committed and consistent, I did it! The devastating part of this whole story is that due to a severe groin injury in April, I was forced to pull out of the marathon in July of this year.

[Tweet “Talk is cheap, as the saying goes, we must act if we are going to go after the things we want.”]

I have found, especially since becoming a business owner and author, lots of people talk about what they want to do. Talk is cheap, as the saying goes, and we must act if we are going to go after the things we want. It takes a committed and consistent person to push through the steps and make progress when it gets mundane, difficult, and the newness of the dream wears off. I can’t tell you how disheartened I have become watching fellow business owners and authors give up.

The reasons they quit on their dreams are numerous: too tired, too overcommitted, weak mindset, change of heart, lack of structure/boundaries in their daily schedules, lack of funds, and lack of self-care.

I believe that most of these close friends and colleagues got lost in the process of going after what they wanted, and didn’t seek proper support to help them get back on track. Were they leery to ask for help, thinking it would make them appear weak or vulnerable? Did they not know who to turn to for support? Did they let themselves get burned out, leaving no fuel to pursue their passions?

It’s happened to me, many times. Honestly, it took me a while to figure out my own over-committed and fatigue signs. I would move quickly, check things off my list, and go, go, go… treating my goals and dreams as if they had to happen now or never–only to discover they would never happen if I didn’t pace myself.

I crashed and burned, more times that I can remember, but instead of giving up, I gathered my most precious resources, the people who support and love me, and I asked for help. I began setting boundaries around everything in my life: who had access to me, my daily schedule, my nightly sleep routine, and who I said yes to of the things that were asked of me.

These acts took more courage than you might realize.

There were many friends who didn’t understand why I couldn’t drop what I was doing and call them when they wanted me to. I had to have difficult conversations with family members on how I expected to be treated. I said no, more often than I said yes. I restructured what I was personally responsible for in my marriage, and communicated with my husband where I needed more help and support.

For the first time in my life, I put myself, my health, and my own needs first. Do you want to guess what happened?

[Tweet “I found the energy, positive mindset, and courage to chase the dreams that once scared me.”]

I realized that I wasn’t necessarily fearful of the dreams, but afraid I would burn out before I achieved them, facing personal disappointment once again. My past track record certainly proved that thought true! I also used the excuse of needing to “find the time” to complete big goals like traveling the world, writing books, and volunteering in my community and abroad.

Once I got super-clear on my boundaries, and placed the focus on why the dreams mattered to me, the how worked itself out. There is power in clarity. There is transformation on the other side of confusion, if only we seek help when needed. And believe me, there is so much bliss and fulfillment, when you find the courage to chase the dreams that once scared you.

Author’s Note: I was interviewed on this topic recently by Susan Vernicek, founder of Identity Magazine. Watch the discussion and tips I reveal about Chasing the Dreams That Scare You. ​

Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.™ Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the above article. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?

Setting boundaries was really difficult for me. But once I learned how I wanted to be treated, and shared that with others, my entire life changed!

2. What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?

I appreciate the quiet time I take each day to reflect on my life, where I have come from, and where I am going.

3. What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?

Well, as I said in the first paragraph above, I have a list of 52 dreams to tackle in 2016. I’m excited about this. A few items on the list: TEDx talk, travel to India and Nepal, take care of elephants, read at least 30 books.

4. We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth–we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

I am quick to jump to conclusions sometimes. I have learned not to send emails or make assumptions without talking to the other person first!

5. “I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!) Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

I love my…life and my traveling!

About the author

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M. Shannon Hernandez

M. Shannon Hernandez is the founder of The Writing Whisperer, and her mission is to help business owners and authors become thought leaders, through the use of strategic content, so they can positively impact more people. The Writing Whisperer was named one of Top 100 Websites for Writers by The Write Life in both 2014 and 2015. Shannon continues to inspire others as a content strategist and copywriter through her blog, guest blogs, and podcast appearances, and she has been featured on CBS Radio, Reinvention Radio, The Huffington Post, The Write Life, and Melinda Emerson’s Small Biz Lady. She travels the nation and speaks regularly at conferences, association meetings, and networking events.

Shannon’s memoir, Breaking the Silence, chronicles her exit out of public education, after 15 years. Shannon is currently working on her second book, where she is exploring what it means to live courageously and how to create a life you LOVE. Throughout her travels, volunteer work, and everyday experiences, she will face personal fears, examine the feelings associated with those fears, and explore her role in society, as well as what she learns about humanity along the way.

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