Can Time Erase Pain?

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Written by Michele Wroblewski

The more we hide? The more we discover. The more we feel. The more we resent. The more we think. The more we search for an answer. The more we become absorbed, obsessed with the torment that we will forever wish to obliterate.

Time will pass us by; what will you do to make it of value?

Time. Time heals all wounds, along with action.   Action will lead you up each and every step, through each murky hardship, take you to the depths of all knowledge and to the pit of your ultimate terrors. Time; we all fear time. Its passage, its lingering, its pause; time controls all.   Time leaves behind scars that we can never erase, never escape from. Sure, we can cover them, cake over them a disguise so thick that to the naked eye not a blemish can be found.   However, the more we cover, the more gunk that we place in between the visual of our scar and the atmosphere, the more we feel its presence. The more we hide our scars, the more we become aware of the sensation of that cool air, as it hits upon its forever engrained memory.

The more we hide? The more we discover. The more we feel. The more we resent. The more we think. The more we search for an answer. The more we become absorbed, obsessed with the torment that we will forever wish to obliterate.   More can be a blessing, or a curse; it can help you to gain everything imaginable, or it can severely overwhelm, resulting in self destruction.

love two Time is the golden ticket to fulfilling all of your dreams, healing all of your wounds, learning how to forgive, and finding the love of your life; the only thing that you can control is your patience to let it pass.   When the right person comes along, it’s not gonna matter what you say, what you do, or how you respond in a situation as long as   you are being honest and true to yourself.

So quit worrying about every move you make; don’t mess with the timeline.   If something is meant to be, there is no doubt that it will happen.   Question is, are you vulnerable enough to welcome it when it will be ready to come your way? That is why you must keep your faith. Today may be lonely, tomorrow may be wonderful, or vice versa.   You never know what can happen in the very next second.   That’s the beauty of life. You can’t control everything, but you can control things that are to your liking.   Never fear and keep marching on.   Even in the roughest, sharpest thorns, roses can be found, and that will be the most beautiful love story of all.   You must have patience and always believe something beautiful will come tomorrow, even when the facts don’t add up to a hopeful situation. That is the true meaning of faith.

If you love life, it will love you back...

If you love life, it will love you back…

Instead of hiding from the truth, yearn to seek. Begin to open and wear proudly the scars of which you were so ashamed; it’s how you mark the world with your beauty. The beauty of your unique self; show the world what you have to offer. Don’t be inhibited by those who criticize, and never abide to the standards and definitions of what is proper or normal.   Instead, rock those scars with the pride that it took to face what caused this visual representation of pain.   When people question, never cower in fear.   Show the world what made you; scars are living proof of what you endured, and most importantly, how far you have truly come.   And that, my reader, is the mystery behind every strong person.


Beautiful Scars

What is wrong? What is right?

See through your own eyes to sleep at night.

Start from there, step with care

For you have been left bare.

You don’t know why,

But you know you’ve got to try.

Can’t give up just yet.

                                                                You’re my strongest drug

                                                                                                      Of pure ecstacy,

                                                                                                                        And I don’t know why.

I’ve got a few scars

But this one’s deeper than the rest.

Old feelings emerge

Put my strength to the test.

What I dealt with,

I need a reminder it is no more.

I overcame,

Named, conquered; love grew its stem to the core.

I wanted more,

So I sought,

And gave all I had, every fiber of my being,

True desire is my meaning,

Truth lies within my needing,

Given up on all this concealing.


I rock my scars

They’re living proof of how far

I have come. I have seen every side of my wall,

All around,

Strolled the tower in which my soul was found.

Unlocked the chains, to which my body did lay.

Had to feed my life with the strength.

Not to prove to anyone but myself,

I could live the life I wanted to lead.

If I learned how to clear the path of weeds

Plant the seed to thrive,

Sown with hope.

Guess I’ll never know what would have passed,

If I turned down a different road.

Ah, that’s the beauty of life. Why mess with the time?

Was it meant to be? Destiny?

Does everything happen for a reason?

Nothing can be proven, or written in stone.

All I know is that I am here right now, and the thoughts in my head have never been such a beautiful sound.

So what they say, must be true, I don’t believe you know who you are, until you lose who you are.

Feel that absence and seek out who you lost.

For you will always be the one that must fight for yourself.

So full of pride.

I will never abide to what they say.

Since I now know that the only way to live, is to guide your own way.

Sometimes, you need to search in order to find your own kind of magic to fuel miracles.



Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

What have you accepted in your life that took time, physically or mentally?

Ever hear of the expression it is what it is? I will never accept that as the truth.   To me, settling on something that makes me unhappy is giving up.   There is always a loop hole to be found, and it took me many years to realize that unfortunate events may happen, but how you respond and continue to fight for what you want? That is what will lead to your acceptance to anything in life.   So what have I ultimately accepted? Life will always bring some version of pain; however, the medicine to any pain is the faith that I must strongly grip on to.   That faith will always bring miracles that will brighten and shape my world forever.

What do you appreciate about yourself and within your life?

I have learned to be honest with myself.   To lie to one’s self is a waste of energy; instead of hiding my feelings, I find ways to discover why.   For that reason, I feel that I am closer than ever to getting what I want from life.

What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What goals do you still have?

I make the most of each second of my day and live with no regrets; my goals? To continue this pattern in life, for dedication and hard work in every aspect of life, both personal and work based, can only lead to success.

What is your not-so-perfect way? What imperfections and quirks create your Identity?

I tend to become embarrassed about the scars that I have in my life, both figurative and literal.   I am not quite there just yet, and I don’t necessarily know if I ever will be, but what I do know is that this weakness is just another part of my identity and what I can bring to this world.   Everyone has their weaknesses; however, I am on the path to finding how I can use these weaknesses to make a huge strength in someone else’s life.   I feel this is a huge purpose of my life, which is why I will never hide from them again.

How would you complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

Life. I have never been more comfortable in my own skin, and I will forever wear my passion for life on my sleeve for the world to see.   Pride in oneself creates insurmountable faith for one’s future.   I love my confidence, which shapes my world. Forever.

About the author

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Michele Wroblewski

Michele Wroblewski is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist working as an outpatient clinical dietitian at Caruso Physical Therapy and Nutrition in Allentown, NJ, as well as a health coach for a virtual lifestyle change program with a weight loss component. Michele’s passion in life is to help people help themselves. She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist granted by the Commission of Dietetic Registration, and is currently a member of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. She is a Summa Cum Laude graduate with a Bachelor’s of Science, majoring in Nutrition and Dietetics from Marywood University in 2014, where she received the Norman T. Shaffer Medal for Nutrition upon graduation. Michele graduated from the Coordinated Program at Marywood University, where she completed her Dietetic Internship at various locations throughout the state of Pennsylvania. She is a member of both the honor society of her graduating class, Delta Epsilon Sigma, and the National Dietetic Honor’s Society, Kappa Omicron Nu. Michele provides medical nutrition therapy for chronic and acute disease states and weight loss counseling for all ages. Michele has worked as a public health nutritionist, with concentrations in maternal, child, and infant nutrition, clinical nutrition, as well as general wellness, fitness, and sports nutrition. She believes in an individualized approach to achieving wellness goals and feels it is a combination of body, mind, and spirit that creates overall health. She is also a Zumba Basic I, Zumba Toning, Strong by Zumba, Zumba Kids & Zumba Kids Jr. Instructor, and a ZIN Network Member since 2011. Michele is also an AFAA Certified Group Fitness Instructor. In addition to performing for local yoga classes, town fairs, and charity events, she has performed original speeches with poetry/music at the "Bold Her Conference" Summer 2014, and at "Biz 360 Conference" in Fairfield, NJ Fall 2014, and “Identity Live” Conference in June 2016. Her primary goal for life is to inspire others as much as they inspire her. It is with hard work, dedication, and passion that one can overcome any obstacle in life. She aims to show people that although painstaking to endure, challenges faced in life should be received in gratitude, for they produce the powerful product of a strong, independent, and self confident individual that is prepared to face the world.

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