Stop Being Your Own Enemy Today

There is a world created in your head that has the power to be opposed to truth. To maintain balance, sometimes we create our own personal devil’s advocate. When we struggle to find real, true life fault, our insecurities take it upon themselves to fill the silence with irrationalities.

However,  this only becomes a problem when we allow it to translate into our every day actions, and when we allow it change the way we would like to behave and express ourselves. When we allow our insecurities to take over our lives, we no longer are living our own life. Instead, our insecurities are.

We are not defined by our fears, whether they be of rejection, loneliness, death, loss, pain; fears only exist to balance the positives we have.

Fear humbles us, and keeps us providing what the world around us deserves: our full effort and our full attention.

It may be  difficult to get used to having fear in your life, but every time you start to feel absorbed in its negativity, always remember that there is a positive to fear’s existence. It means that finally, there is something in your life to fear losing.

What happens when you lose that something or someone that was of such value to you? What happens when your greatest fear becomes reality? What do you do when everything you thought was going thrive for the rest of your life, suddenly disappears without warning?

Sometimes you need to let go of what you thought was your dream come true and realize, that maybe that dream was only meant to serve as a memory.

You cannot be afraid to let go of something that no longer serves as a means of growth. The day you start to see yourself trying to prove your worth to someone else is the day that you need to say goodbye.

You should never feel that you must change yourself to fit into someone’s life. Realize this: sometimes it truly is not you. It is them. This is the oldest cliché in the book, but hear me out. Before you ever get involved in a relationship in which you are utterly consumed by love and passion and would do anything to be with them, which yes is a beautiful thing, always go through a check list.

Ask yourself, did I have to fight for the right in things in order to attain them? Or did I fight for them to give me a chance? If I fought for them to give me a chance..what was their reasoning?

Before you spend hours and hours driving yourself crazy with theories about why it didn’t work out, ask yourself: were they happy before you? For  no one will ever be happy with another until they can be happy with themselves.

If they are not satisfied with their own life, they can never be satisfied with you.

So ladies, stop thinking about every little move you make, because with the right guy it will most certainly never matter. He will be sound enough in himself to not rip apart your insecurities. Instead, he will be there to support you. Even when fights turn into irrational misinterpretations, you will never give up on one another. You will still want to be with each other to withstand every obstacle. You will continue to choose to grow together.

Relationships are not for the people that need saving. Instead, they are for the people that have chosen to save themselves.

I urge you to save yourselves, and if you are in a relationship in which you feel under-appreciated, unrecognized, undervalued, and not seen as a priority? Allow them to leave. For every person that you let go that does not provide a sense of fulfillment in your life, there is another one waiting for you to free that space. You just have to have the courage to let go.

Your life may change overnight. Your whole world may turn upside down. However, I guarantee you will start to see that as soon as you allow those to leave your life that do not see you as the person that you see yourself to be, your life will change and before you know it, you will see why you could not fulfill your dreams before you allowed them to leave.

Everything happens for a reason. Dreams can only come true if we have the courage to pursue them. Sometimes pursuing dreams does not necessarily mean getting everything that we thought we wanted in life. Instead, sometimes it is about letting life give us not what we think we wanted, but what we deserve.

No one deserves to feel used or unwanted. No one deserves to feel unloved and not good enough. Everyone deserves to feel missed and cherished. If someone is foolish enough to let go of love? Let them, and never turn back. For the person that was meant to spend the rest of eternity with you will never give you the chance to walk out of their lives. The instant they meet you, they will see your worth and never let go.

That is true love. And that ladies, is what we all deserve.

Never settle.

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I’ve never been the kind of girl to reach out for a hand.

I’ve always found that power inside of me.

Even though I’m now that girl, in need of help to stand.

I’ll never let you be my defeat.

 

I’ve hidden from the words I’ve longed to write down on this page.

I’ve finally found the courage to say.

It’s time to leave what I thought was meant for me behind.

I finally, realize.

You were just a chapter to my tale of glory.

There is more to life than this tragic story.

So try to find, that strength inside, to wipe those tears, and do not hide.

For you may be broken now, but you survived the end, so take a bow.

I’ve given all I had to you, but you failed to recognize.

This beauty I have inside, will be impossible to find.

So even though, I’m grieving now, I’m glad I found the truth.

And I can serve as living proof.

That you can bear the knife, twisting bringing pain.

You  have the fight to  ignore the thoughts, driving you insane.

You can bring back hope when it’s pouring rain.

You just need to leave behind, what made your spirit die.

 

You were just a chapter  to my tale of glory.

There is more to life than this tragic story.

So try to find, that strength inside, to wipe those tears, and do not hide.

For you may be broken now, but you survived the end, so take a bow.

You may be lost, and hurting now, but remember you’re still you.

You may be spent, and burnt out, it’s okay to be blue.

Find the strength deep inside, it’s time to renew.

And find someone who is happy, just as long as they’re, with you.

You may be broken now, but you survived the end, so take a bow.

Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.^TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?

Life will always bring change when you are not expecting it, sometimes when you feel you are at your weakest moment.  However, change is sometimes the only hope that we have in the darkness.   So don’t fear change, embrace it.   For it will lead you to a happiness that you could not find in your previous life.

What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?

I have learned to appreciate my selflessness.   Although it may sometimes lead me to immense pain, it also keeps me living a life of truth, passion, and giving the people I love every fiber of my being, which will forever create a sense of fulfillment inside of me.

What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?

Although I have reached many with my music and poetry, I hope to continue to pursue my dreams and reach many more once I move to NYC.   I hope I am given the chance to share my story and life lessons with the world.

We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth–we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

I live life out loud.   Some may see this as too forward, but it is my means of expression.   Interpret as you may, but I will continue to shine in the center of my own spotlight.

“I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!)

Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?

I love my fearless passion.   Although intense, it is nothing but honest and pure.   That is the life that I  can always bask in.  To me? A passionate, intense life is a beautiful life.