Give Yourself Permission To Be Happy Today

How to Find Happiness
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Written by Lorna Anne

How do emotions affect our world? What role do they play in our development and what is the best way to handle such powerful forces?

Denying emotions that point to our happiness breaks the link to the best possible Destiny, because our evolutionary growth is directly connected to our emotions. Extreme denial can lead to extreme conditions, because emotions are like nature — you can’t control them or deny them without serious repercussions. They certainly cannot be destroyed —only repressed — and repressed emotions can lead to violent behavior.

If we honor our feelings in our world, our realities can get into balance and harmony with ourselves. For centuries, certain cultural influences have tried to destroy the connection to our emotions. Need I mention the story of Adam and Eve? An apple? Eve wanted an apple, she ate an apple. Are we really supposed to believe that all of mankind is doomed for all eternity because of an apple? Wouldn’t this frighten children to mistrust and suspect their emotions as being dangerous?

There is tremendous anger resulting from societal forces that teach us to be rational and to only pay attention to our mental functions. Ignorance as to the importance of our emotions can cause us to make poor choices based upon fear. If we didn’t call feelings bad, taboo or evil, and we dealt with them consciously, rather than repress them, we’d be doing something really positive to help ourselves.

For example, lets take a look at how to handle our emotions successfully. Food cravings — desires for what we may think are unhealthy choices. Sweets, processed foods and the like. You really can’t see the bigger picture as to what your body needs on that particular day; it may seriously need some extra sugar at that particular time, and the desire is telling you the best course of action for your physical body. And that’s why you trust it, rather than say the emotional impulse is wrong. But why choose a cupcake and not dried fruit? Because cupcakes make you happy! And that’s indulging the feelings!

When a taboo desire comes to you, consider it for that one moment in time. There is always an important lesson attached to the feeling that needs to be explored and understood. You’re not leading yourself down the path of destruction to consider it. You have power to keep things from getting out of hand. Trust your strength and will power rather than calling yourself weak. The key is to prevent a healthy indulgence from becoming habit.

There is a caveat to this way of thinking: Do not indulge the feelings until you can eliminate the guilt trip (which is caused by not trusting your emotions) or it will set up a negative rebound reaction. You won’t appreciate or enjoy the experience. It would be indulgence without acceptance, due to the fear of being wrong, and that moves us into the realm of muddling the true emotions creating uncertainty as to making the best choices. Acceptance and trust of the emotions is humanity’s saving grace. It is all of our evolutionary paths.

Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?

I’ve accepted my unique individuality as an asset.

What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?

I appreciate my self reliance and independence.

What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?

All of The creative arts are rewarding achievements.

We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth–we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

I don’t have an answer for this. As it says, we’re all perfect.

“I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!)

I love my connection to the Spiritual realm.

Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?

I love my ability to be happy.

About the author

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Lorna Anne

Lorna Anne received a psychology degree from the University of New Hampshire. Much of her knowledge comes from her own private esoteric studies of ancient documents of wisdom. She has been a practicing counselor for more than 20 years in New Orleans, Honolulu, and Washington state where she spent several years studying dream interpretation with a Jungian therapist. She currently resides in Chatham, Ma, and counsels either in person or on the phone. For inquiries, please contact Lorna via E-mail at, or on Face book a