What causes someone to take their life for granted?Â I just found out a very close friend is seriously ill and the long term prognosis is not good.Â In addition, I have recently experienced two traumatic deaths in my life; my younger cousin, and a very close friend, who had a massive heart attack at age 54.Â The sadness of these losses is deep and life changing.Â In fact, I have been very slow at returning to some of my responsibilities â€¦..almost as if I am slogging through, much like a slug.Â Â It doesnâ€™t feel good at all.Â However, there are days when I am incredibly energized, productive and feel as if life is â€œexactly the sameâ€. Yet I know that is not the truth.
This is the essence of this article: truth.
What is truth?Â What is your personal truth and how are you living consciously with it?Â These are big questions, and ones I truly enjoy churning over, because the breakthroughs and life lessons that I find each time I do, truly alter the manner in which I live my own life.Â The bottom line is, we are here to live our own lives, to the fullest degree we can â€“ at least that is my understanding and intention.
One of my definitions is to be authentic â€“ truly authentic in word, action and deed; using mind, body, and spirit.Â As difficult as this appears, one of my big lessons is learning the art of saying â€œNOâ€, for the correct, soulful reason.Â Creating healthy boundaries, asking for help and recognizing that resources are available has been a struggle.Â Feeling I can do it all, yet knowing I truly am not able, nor do I really desire to accomplish it all
In identifying a little piece of truth, hereâ€™s one of my revelations â€“ I need to listen more carefully, so I respond with authentic information and discern drama from reality.Â The listening I am speaking of is the silent, quiet, calm space of my heart â€“ that is where real answers lie.Â The distractions of life, even the difficult life experiences, can be a veil to what is truly going on inside.Â Â The art of saying â€œnoâ€ is the art of closing down technology, phones, TV and other peopleâ€™s opinions, thus closing off the world for short periods of time.Â In those moments of deep quiet and solitude, the truth comes forth.Â For me, it is acknowledging to you that I was not practicing what I teachâ€¦â€¦. And now my lesson comes full circle.
I am sitting quietly, listening to what I appreciate in lifeâ€¦â€¦â€¦ it is the ability to be quiet, listen, and be guided by my truth.
Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all Aâ€™s in the game of life â€“ Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.â„¢ Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the above article. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all Aâ€™s.
What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?
That life is going to throw curves and I may not always be prepared, yet I have learned that in the end, there is a lesson that I needed to learn. Each time they come around, they are different, and as long as I trust myself, I will be able to manage the moment.
What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?
I am learning to really grab each moment, and I appreciate that I do not need approval or acceptance from others when it is a decision from my heart.
What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?
This past month, I stepped down from a Board of Trustees position at our Temple after 19 years of service.Â I would like to believe that during that time, the decisions that I was part of creating, will have a positive long term impact on the future of that organization.Â Taking the action to step down, was a moment of clarity, truth and courage. My goal is to look to this decision as I accept other responsibilities in the future.
We all have imperfections, so we think. The truthâ€”we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you areâ€”your Identity?
I will leave an item down in one room, truly believing I will remember where I put itâ€¦. like my night retainer. Then laugh at myself, when I need that item.Â Sometimes it reveals itself quickly, sometimes, it will be the next day.Â I always laugh and my own foibles!
â€œI Love Myâ€¦â€ is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make youâ€¦wellâ€¦ YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!) Identity challenges you to complete the phrase â€œI Love Myâ€¦?â€
I love my ability to truly see the person in front of me (or on the phone), and step aware from the drama.Â I may not succeed every time to the extent my heart wishes; yet I know thatÂ I love myself enough to find the way to see the love in others.