After the election, what’s next? Be the GOOD

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Written by Cara Maksimow

For those of us who support and admire President Obama and Hillary Clinton, it is important that we respond in a way that unites us as a country and not divide us further.

Protests are erupting across the country. People are angry over Donald Trump’s surprising rise to victory. Yesterday President Obama reminded us that

“Everybody is sad when their side loses an election, but the day after, we have to remember we’re on the same team…We’re patriots first. We all want what’s best for our country. That’s what I heard from Trump last night… and I’m heartened by that.”

Hillary Clinton showed grace and strength in her words,

“And to all of the little girls who are watching this, never doubt that you are valuable and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your own dreams.”

For those of us who support and admire President Obama and Hillary Clinton, it is important that we respond in a way that unites us as a country and not divide us further.

I understand free speech is one of the things that makes this country great. It is important to make your voice heard. However I ask you to think about the things you disagree with Trump about and ask yourself if resistance is really the best way to move forward.

I believe that Trump realizes the enormity of his position and am hopeful by his words

“Now, it’s time for America to bind the wounds of division – have to get together. To all Republicans and Democrats and independents across this nation, I say it is time for us to get together as one united people. It’s time. I pledge to every citizen of our land that I will be the president for all Americans, and this is so important to me.”

I want to believe that can happen.  So what’s next?

It is time to practice forgiveness, compassion and kindness. Those of us who did not want to elect a president who is full of anger, prejudice and hate need to live the values we want to see in this country.

Continuing to rant, complain and spew hateful rhetoric toward Trump only makes us part of the problem we need to work on solving. We need to move on. We need to support each other. We need to practice empathy and understanding. We need to come together for the common good of this country.

I have seen a bunch of articles on how to talk to your kids about the election. This is so important right now. They are looking to us to see how we react. They want reassurance that things will be okay.

We need to live our life with compassion, love and positivity. Our kids will learn from our actions not just our words. Here’s what I said to my nine year old who expressed fear and concern yesterday morning. It is really important now more than ever to be kind and understand that you can be friends with someone that thinks differently than you do. For example, you love soccer and some of your friends don’t. They are still your friends. Focus on kindness. He left for school ready to get back to what’s important to a little boy in the fourth grade; playing basketball with his friends, grabbing some of his Halloween candy, and flipping water bottles.

It is time to be show empathy and be kind again. It starts with us. Be what you want to see. Practice mindfulness, compassion and kindness.

Be the good you want to see…

Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life — Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.TM Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the above article. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?  

I have accepted that my views are not the same as others and that it is important to put myself in other’s shoes to better unerstand opinions that are different than mine.

2. What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?

I appreciate my ability to empathize with others however I feel I have a ways to go to be better at it.

3. What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?

My children. I see a lot of my anxiety and perfectionism in my daughter and I want to help her let go of the pressure she puts on herself now and not learn like I did long into my adulthood.

4. We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth–we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

I am genuine and have no “poker face”. That’s good and bad.

5. “I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!) Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

I Love My…Life

About the author

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Cara Maksimow

Cara is a therapist, coach, author & speaker dedicated to helping others successfully navigate through times of stress and challenge. As the founder of Maximize Wellness Counseling and Coaching LLC she provides clinical therapy, coaching, wellness workshops on various topics including Increasing Optimism, Goal Setting, Resilience. She is also the Author of “Lose than Mommy Guilt, Tales and Tips from an Imperfect Mom” as well as series of Calendar/Planners to keep you on track with personal and professional goals every day. She specializes in supportive positive therapy and coaching services for life and work transitions, depression, anxiety and managing disease. She works collaboratively with her clients on problem solving, goal setting, identification of strengths, increasing resiliency, stress reduction, positivity and mindfulness. More information on services, schedule a free phone consultation or to check out workshops or books, “Lose That Mommy Guilt” or “Kick Ass Plan” go to be website

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