4 Ways to Become a More Modern, Independent Woman

4 Ways to Become a More Modern, Independent Woman
Written by Kyla Stelling

Through preparedness, you can set yourself up for self-sufficiency in any situation.

Be An Independent Woman

As a modern woman, your independence provides you the opportunity to fully realize your potential and become the woman you want to be. But try to establish your independent spirit in all sectors of your life, be it financially, emotionally or physically.

Think about how you can free yourself from relationship expectations, addictions, financial strains and other potential dangers that could affect your lifestyle or well-being.

Here are four tips on how to establish your independence to become a stronger, more self-assured woman.

Enjoy the Single Life

Being single is the perfect opportunity for you to get to know yourself and explore all your options. It’s a time when you’re not reliant on another person or obligated to invest large portions of your time and energy into a romantic partner.

Embrace your independence and do some activities solo. You should enter into the activity you’ve planned for yourself with an open mind, aware of what you can gain out of future experiences and what you want to learn about yourself.


If you need time to adjust, take some small steps to learn about what you enjoy and where you’re most comfortable. Start with a solo trip to a museum, then work your way up to dining alone.

Finally, make your single-life debut at a party that’s filled mostly with acquaintances or strangers. It can be a liberating and wonderful feeling to enjoy your own company. Plus, venturing out solo, and being comfortable in your own skin – gives you a greater sense of self.

Overcome Addictions

Addictive patterns of behavior tie up your time and stifle your independence. If you’re constantly arranging your life around substance use or certain activities, you’re limiting yourself from exploring new activities, being productive and fully engaging in your life.

For example, if you smoke cigarettes, your smoking breaks may take you away from engaging conversation at the dining table.

This habit may also force the people you value from distancing themselves from you, as they aren’t particularly keen being around cigarette smoke.

Without reliance on addictive habits, you’re free to fully engage in whatever you’re doing and get the most out of it. After working through your addiction, you will also improve your overall health and create a more healthy, independent lifestyle.

Create Stronger Financial Habits

Establish financially-responsible practices as soon as you can, so you won’t need to rely on others for financial support. Owing debt to an institution, a family member or a friend weighs on how you spend your money and your time. The debt adds extra obligations and restrictions to your lifestyle and work-life balance.

Establish a savings account that you add to on a regular basis. You can keep track of your spending so you can grow your funds through a budgeting spreadsheet or app. Utilize an easy-to-use app like Mint that has you take into account every detail of your savings and spending.

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Become More Self-Sufficient

It’s empowering to take control of tricky situations rather than be an unequipped damsel in distress. Through preparedness, you can set yourself up for self-sufficiency in any situation.

For example, if you own your own car, make sure you have a basic car safety kit containing jumper cables, flares, flashlights and a tire changer that can help you out in an emergency.


Additionally, look for ways to reduce your risk of needing extra help on the road by choosing durable and effective all-season tires.

Keep your home safe with a proper security and utility system that lets you monitor the state of your house. Finally, consider apps or Wi-Fi-connected home systems that you can rely on to keep your home safe.

Identity Magazine is all about guiding women to discover their powers of Self-AcceptanceAppreciation, and Personal Achievement. 

We ask that every contributor and expert answer the Identity questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the current article they have writtenIn that way, and as a team, we hope to encourage and motivate each other, thus inspiring you to Get All A’s.

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? Additionally, what are you still working on accepting? Now, we’re not talking about resignation, rather stepping into, embraced, and owned.

I have accepted that my body and mind are meant to be strong, for the preservation of my health and well-being, not to be maintained or presented for the acceptance of others.

2. Appreciation is everything. What have you learned to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? On the other hand OR in contrastare there elements of who you are that you’re still working on appreciating?

I appreciate the privileges I have– access to education, a safe home and community, and supportive relationships.

3. What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell us what makes YOU most proud? Please share the goals and dreams that you still have?

Training to become a transformative educator who focuses on social justice through the educational system. Being part of this process is an achievement already, but I look forward to graduating with my Masters in Teaching.

I want to engage in dialogue with people who are significantly different, around the United States and other parts of the world, to hear about their experiences. I would like to write a book about who and what I encounter.

About the author

Kyla Stelling

Kyla Stelling is a graduate of the University of Washington, where she studied literature. She is the curator of the blog Seattle Street Style which focuses on fashion and design in Seattle where she lives. She has worked in L.A. doing costume design but has recently shifted her career focus to public relations. When she isn't working as a freelance writer, she is preparing herself delicious food or working on a DIY home decor projects.

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