What It’s All About: Why Do We Fail?

Why Do We Fail?
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Written by Michele Wroblewski

Why do we fail? When we feel defeat, we allow ourselves to feel what it’s like to feel lost, to feel frightened.

Just because you forgot the song, does not mean you failed to remember how to sing.

Why do we fail? Life has a funny way of displacing someone from their tracks. Sometimes, when you find yourself at the top of the world looking below, life intercedes. It pushes you off that cliff that you were perched on top of and forces you to crawl back to the top.

However, sometimes when we fall down in life, we find ourselves trapped under enormous boulders that have been collecting for quite some time. We may not even know that they existed until we are faced with a trial different than before.

We are broken and our souls are torn from within. Then, the day comes when we decide that we can bear no more, and you are faced with the choice. Do you rise from the ashes and begin again, or do you let the fire consume you?


It is then that we must start from scratch, and obliterate the fear of failing. For there is always a reason for that struggle. Even if you are clouded by the situation and feel as though you are pinned to the ground, you must NEVER lose faith, for NOTHING is by chance.

Why do we fail? Why do we experience pain, suffering, sickness, and loss? We will never know in that moment.

When  we feel defeat, we allow ourselves to feel what it’s like to feel lost, to feel frightened. It is only when experience life that we can then lend a hand to another to pull them up from the pit that they feel encumbered by.


The words died, for quite a while, but I’m still here.

My world took, a long pause, can’t expect one to ignore the cause.

Each day I am reminded that I’m far from invincible.

A missed turn, a road block, fall to the ground can’t seem to get up.

Drowning in dismay. That was the day, I decided this was not going to be my fate.

The reasons for defeat are still so near.

Feeling lost and frightened in this life I can’t control.

There’s more than just these chains that I was given without consent.

That was the day that I decided it was time to take my stand.

Faith for purpose, hope it was true. That there were reasons for all that we do in this life.


Now I can’t seem to ignore the thoughts, creating brighter sound.

As my soul arises from the grave I discover what it’s all about.

Sometimes we need to see the truth in another’s eyes.

Sometimes we need to experience the beauty in disguise.

For what we thought we knew can shed a completely different light.

Take a look around; can you honestly say you know, what it’s all about?


Everyone comes from a different world they were meant to own.

Behind every looking glass, is another person grown

From another time, another place, we carry the stories we face in the palm of our hand.

We’re all given a voice, and it’s meant to be heard. That’s why we all have the power to choose

What we share with the world; we’re all given the choice.

So make the choice to change the world, with the power of your voice.

Take a look, into the glass you hold.

Is it filled or is it merely bones?

Can you see beyond what’s within?

Can you feel your purpose? It’s not about the win.

It is what you share with the world and hopeless ones who need all you can give

Nor it’s not about the pain, the struggle or the emptiness.

It is about the one’s you touch every day, you have the power, so create the change.

Take step away from the gravel, collecting at your feet.

The world needs you to believe.


There was once a torn up little girl.

Only seeing beyond the rock that she built.

The purpose was that to survive through every day.

But as she grew, she was wrong to her dismay.

It was never about the pain that she felt burning through her veins.

She wasn’t meant to focus on the shattered being that remained.

The story didn’t serve to cause a runaway train with no escape.

The plan is greater than we know.

As she grew older she could see, her story is what the world needs to believe.

So the lesson is just that, we can learn so much through another’s mind.

If they only have the courage to share what they know,

We can help each other lead the way,

To a destiny; to our fate.


Identity Magazine is all about guiding women to discover their powers of Self-Acceptance, Appreciation, and Personal Achievement. We ask that every contributor and expert answer  the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the current article they have written. In that way, and as a team, we hope to encourage and motivate each other, thus inspiring you to Get All A’s.

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?

I can’t control the world, and I can’t let the world control me. Sometimes, it’s hard to achieve the latter, but I’ve learned that when you surround yourself with love, you have the strength to stay true to you.

2. What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate within yourself and/or life?

I love this life and I live through my passion for helping others into a career. I am still working on accepting that sometimes it’s not about seeing results as soon as you act. Instead, it’s about planting seeds!

3. What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell us not only what makes YOU most proud but also share the  goals and dreams that you still have.

I love that I can overcome any obstacle. Even when I feel lost, I eventually ALWAYS turn a negative into a positive. I would still like to spread my poetry and music and mission to help other people to a larger scale, but I’m never giving up on sharing my story with the world!

4. Of course, we all have imperfections, or so we think. In truth, we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways?  Likewise, what imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

I am very anxiety driven. I get things done, but I am one big ball of nervous energy. However, this energy creates a passion within that cannot be replicated.

5. “I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!) Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

I love my big heart. Not a day goes by that I won’t have the drive to help someone live the life they have always dreamed of, through my music, poetry, nutrition expertise, fitness guidance, or just an ear to listen to!

About the author

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Michele Wroblewski

Michele Wroblewski is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist working as an outpatient clinical dietitian at Caruso Physical Therapy and Nutrition in Allentown, NJ, as well as a health coach for a virtual lifestyle change program with a weight loss component. Michele’s passion in life is to help people help themselves. She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist granted by the Commission of Dietetic Registration, and is currently a member of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. She is a Summa Cum Laude graduate with a Bachelor’s of Science, majoring in Nutrition and Dietetics from Marywood University in 2014, where she received the Norman T. Shaffer Medal for Nutrition upon graduation. Michele graduated from the Coordinated Program at Marywood University, where she completed her Dietetic Internship at various locations throughout the state of Pennsylvania. She is a member of both the honor society of her graduating class, Delta Epsilon Sigma, and the National Dietetic Honor’s Society, Kappa Omicron Nu. Michele provides medical nutrition therapy for chronic and acute disease states and weight loss counseling for all ages. Michele has worked as a public health nutritionist, with concentrations in maternal, child, and infant nutrition, clinical nutrition, as well as general wellness, fitness, and sports nutrition. She believes in an individualized approach to achieving wellness goals and feels it is a combination of body, mind, and spirit that creates overall health. She is also a Zumba Basic I, Zumba Toning, Strong by Zumba, Zumba Kids & Zumba Kids Jr. Instructor, and a ZIN Network Member since 2011. Michele is also an AFAA Certified Group Fitness Instructor. In addition to performing for local yoga classes, town fairs, and charity events, she has performed original speeches with poetry/music at the "Bold Her Conference" Summer 2014, and at "Biz 360 Conference" in Fairfield, NJ Fall 2014, and “Identity Live” Conference in June 2016. Her primary goal for life is to inspire others as much as they inspire her. It is with hard work, dedication, and passion that one can overcome any obstacle in life. She aims to show people that although painstaking to endure, challenges faced in life should be received in gratitude, for they produce the powerful product of a strong, independent, and self confident individual that is prepared to face the world.