What I learned about Self-Care and Success this Year

What I’ve learned about Self-Care and Success this Year
I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.
Written by Susan Vernicek

We must learn and lean into discomfort. We must push our limits in order to stretch and gain new strengths….

What a year!   No seriously, what a year right? Not just within the entire world, but within my world–so much growth, along with highs and lows, how about you?

Have you taken the time to reflect on your self-care over the year and your successes; defined by you?   What does that look like for you?

What have you learned and processed for continued growth next year?

So, in my opinion, this is what I believe matters…




APPRECIATE… in order for you to ACHIEVE deeper and deeper each time you GO FOR IT–for whatever that is you want, crave, and need.

I encourage you give this exercise, (stop, reflect, feel, and appreciate) a try and below I share what I have learned about self-care and success this year!

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What I learned about Self-Care and Success this Year

1. There’s so much strength and power in my resistance and mind control.

We must learn and lean into discomfort. We must push our limits in order to stretch and gain new strengths. We have to be humble enough to say, “Where am I missing the mark and what’s not there?”  

Over the year I’ve learned to stop resisting when I should and resist when I need. For example…follow my intuition more on my passions and lead and inspire by example and showing… So I let go of the fear of judgement from others.

It’s been a powerful year and I have so many to thank for impacting my strength and power–especially the women I’ve been coaching in health and fitness.

Resistance: the refusal to accept or comply with something; the attempt to prevent something by action or argument.

Where did YOU succeed in this area?

2.Your confidence, self-love, and self-care is the most important one.

So yea, you hear this over and over and over right? BUT, there is a reason why you continue to hear it…. BECAUSE IT’S THE TRUTH.

Creating a healthy relationship with yourself is never a task checked off on your to-do list. You can’t fuel your tank up once and then drive forever. You must continue to fill the tank.

It’s in nurturing our inner goddess that we find the courage to be more of ourselves, stand up for ourselves, and embrace, own, and thrive through the elements of our journey. When we implement this, we find the courage to stand up for others as well.

3. Life is both an evolution and revolution.

I turned 37 this year and experienced some transformations. You better believe my plan is to continue to evolve and to thrive year-after-year.

Why would I stop? Why should you stop?

When I continue to practice self-awareness, living as conscious as I can, and embracing the journey–rather than a series of deadlines and goals to reach…it releases pressure and stress overall, it’s really quite refreshing.

How? Because I know the journey, this game I call life, is slow and steady, I don’t have to follow the speed of everybody else and I don’t have to get it right; I have to keep going. I have to keep thriving, creating more and more positive energy–to continue with my passions.

What are some of your passions?

Our life is made up of the big moments that change us dramatically (a revolution) and the smaller, quieter ones that we learn through self-care and reflection (an evolution). We need both to survive and THRIVE.  

What I’ve learned about Self-Care and Success this Year

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How will you wrap up the year and how will you enter and evolve through the next?   Self-care and Success IS PLANNED, so be sure to make them a priority in the NEW YEAR!





Identity Magazine is all about guiding women to discover their powers  of Self-Acceptance,  Appreciation, and Personal  Achievement.  We ask that every contributor and expert answer    the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the  current article they have written.  In that way, and as a team, we hope to  encourage  and motivate  each other, thus inspiring  you to Get All A’s.

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally?  Additionally, what are you  still working on accepting? Now, we’re talking about resignation, rather stepping into, embraced, and owned.

Around the holiday, December of 2016 I finally was fed up with having constant lower back and accepted the fact that I had to get x-rays. It’s not normal at the age of 36 to not be able to put my pants on.

So I went for help and ended up going to physical therapy.  Which, I was told I could not work out, do laundry, or pick my kids up!  I was out of commission. Once I got the go ahead I committed to  coaching  other into getting stronger and healthier.   It’s been almost a YEAR now and I’m completely transformed with the ability to do SOO much!

2. What have you learned to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally?  On the other hand  OR in contrast,  are there elements of who you are that you’re still working on  appreciating?

I’m grateful that I have the mental strength to lead, to heal, and to serve. Therefore, I’m appreciate my courage.

3. What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell us  not only  what makes YOU most proud  but also  share the  goals and dreams that you still have.

Most recently, I’m most proud of my weight loss and building strength journey. With that said,  I share a little of this  HERE.

4.  Of course, we  all have imperfections,  or  so we think.  In truth,  we are all perfectly imperfect. So, what are your not-so-perfect ways?  Likewise,  what imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

Ugh, as I get even more fit and fab, my boobs are shrinking! Oh, and I have uneven breasts, like a solid cup size difference.  Sooo, physically  imperfect I am, LOL.

5. “I Love My…” is an outlet for you to  appreciate and express  all the positive traits that make you…well…YOU!  In fact, sharing  what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (We assure you!)  Therefore,  Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

I love my butt and I love my back muscles that are forming from being consistent and last, hitting  PLAY EVERYDAY!.

About the author

I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.

Susan Vernicek

Mindset Coach, Susan Vernicek ignites and empowers Mompreneurs who struggle to discover their balance between MomLife + BizLife. For over a decade she's been helping them create a winning Mompreneur Mindset so that they can consciously thrive at home and KILL IT in business —without feeling guilty and letting go of the comparison game.

With 14 years of experience and overcoming her own emotional, financial, and physical rock bottom, she's now thriving as a Mompreneur.

She's not just a mindset coach and igniter, she's known as the Mindset + Achieve™ coach, a #1 Amazon Bestseller, and Speaker. Move from autopilot to achieving in MomLife + BizLife! To connect directly, please Email Susan at Susan@susanvernicek.com

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