According to a survey conducted by rent.com, the majority of people in relationships think that couples should live together after roughly six months to a year of dating. Whether this seems too short or too long for you, one of your concerns may also be what to actually do when you decide that it’s time to cohabit.
Moving in with your significant other is an exciting process, but it also means blending two people’s lives together. So what do you keep and what do you toss? Lets take a look at a few suggestions.
What to Keep
- Memorabilia of Your Relationship: It may seem a little bit sappy, but keeping any memories of your time together is always a great way to turn a house into a home. You can hang up certain things on the wall or use them as displays. Another great idea is to take activities or hobbies that you share and use them as decoration around the house.
- Security and Safety: Maintaining a safe and secure house is always important. Therefore, make sure you keep your hands on any extra locks or keys that you like to use, equip all the doors with screen protectors and update your security system. Wire-free security systems are now available to make this easier, providing protection to your interior and exterior, with night vision, advanced motion and weather resistant technology.
- Items of Sentimental Value: Be sure to hold onto anything sentimental, whether that be related to your family, friends or partner. And even though you may hate it, don’t ask you partner to get rid of something that holds sentimental value Ã¢â‚¬â€ all it will do is cause built up resentment and may be something you regret in the long-run.
What to Toss
- Gifts From an Ex: Moving in together is a big step in any relationship, so it’s important that you’re all in. Therefore, it shouldn’t be hard to get rid of anything you’ve gotten from a previous relationship. Start this big step with a clean slate Ã¢â‚¬â€ it’ll inspire you to create even more memories with your current partner.
- Useless Collectibles: As with any big move, it is the perfect opportunity to de-clutter and organize any mess you may have. If you have a few different magazine subscriptions and find it hard to throw out each weekly edition, then now’s the time to get rid of that huge stack of magazines on your coffee table. Other items that may need sorting are clothes, linen, books or silly collections that have built up over the years.
- Anything broken: It may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how many damaged or bad quality items can collect in one household. Well, now is the perfect time to get rid of that couch that has a ripped cushion, or the pans that are all scratched up Ã¢â‚¬â€ your partner will hopefully also have one, which will be the perfect replacement.
For any couple, moving in together is an important step forward and often comes with a lot of time and effort. So when you do decide to take that leap with your significant other, use the opportunity to not only sort out your belongings, but to be sure you’re combining your lives in the best way possible.
Identity Magazine is all about guiding women to discover their powersÂ of Self-Acceptance,Â Appreciation, and PersonalÂ Achievement.Â We ask that every contributor and expert answerÂ Â the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with theÂ current article they have written.Â In that way, and as a team, we hope toÂ encourageÂ and motivateÂ each other, thus inspiringÂ you to Get All A’s.
1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally?Â Additionally, what are youÂ still working on accepting? Now, weâ€™re not talking about resignation, rather stepping into, embraced, and owned.
Iâ€™ve accepted that for the foreseeable future, I will probably never have a home that will be featured in a Martha Stewart magazineâ€”with kids, a hubby and 5 pets we have a lot of â€œstuffâ€ in our home. Iâ€™m still working on accepting that my kids are getting older and some day they will move outâ€¦.which means maybe I will get a shot at that Martha Stewart photo shoot one day!
2. What have you learned to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally?Â On the other handÂ OR in contrast,Â are there elements of who you are that youâ€™re still working onÂ appreciating?
I have learned to appreciate that Iâ€™m a good friend to people and that Iâ€™m always there for them when I need them. I think Iâ€™m still working on appreciating how stepping on Legos at 2 a.m. in bare feet just means you have happy kids in the home who enjoy playing with their toys.
3. What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell usÂ not onlyÂ what makes YOU most proudÂ but alsoÂ share theÂ goals and dreams that you still have.
My most rewarding achievement by far is being a mom. My two sons make me so proud and I love being with them. As for goals and dreams, I would love to rent an RV one day and drive around the country with my family.
4.Â Of course, weÂ all have imperfections,Â orÂ so we think.Â In truth,Â we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways?Â Likewise,Â what imperfections and quirks create who you areâ€”your Identity?
My main imperfection that comes to mind is that Iâ€™m not great at getting enough rest. I have one son who is an early bird and one who is a night owl and so to spend time with each of them Iâ€™m typically up early and up late.
5. â€œI Love Myâ€¦â€ is an outlet for you toÂ appreciate and expressÂ all the positive traits that make youâ€¦wellâ€¦YOU!Â In fact, sharingÂ what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (We assure you!)Â Therefore,Â Identity challenges you to complete the phrase â€œI Love Myâ€¦?â€
A dear friend of mine once told me â€œYou should never say anything about yourself that you wouldnâ€™t say to a best friend or your mom.â€ I really took this to heart and strive to avoid all negative self-talk, even when said in jest.Â I love my positive self-talk!