Discover at the Core Who You Really Are

Discover the Core of Who You Are
Written by Patty Rose

Life gives a little nudge and we remember who we always have been.

Hey Love, this is for you to discover at the core of who you really are. Core  values  are  the  fundamental  beliefs  of  a  person and I’d love to talk about core values when it comes to passion and  entrepreneurial dreams. Do you realize that everything that you need to achieve them, you already have? This is a message about not giving up. I encourage you to use the tools you have to continue seeking, and you will find your way, your path, your dreams.

Ready? Let’s get to the heart of it.  

My dream began when I was a little girl at a convention with my family in the Catskills.

My father was the president of the Board of Gas Dealers, and I remember attending the convention annually. One year in particular changed my life so profoundly, but I wouldn’t even know it for another decade.

The theater was dark, the curtains were drawn. I was a buck toothed, scraggly haired, extremely shy, 12-year-old, sitting in the front row at a small round table with my parents and my younger sister. The curtain opened, and as I watched the dance performance on the stage ahead, I was in awe.

I fell fast in love and I had a visceral, deep desire. I said to my mom so many times in just a few short minutes. “Mom! I want to do that! I can do that! I want to be like them! I want to be like her!!!” I could feel it. I could sense it in every cell of my being. I wanted it at my core.

Who knew that this intense dreaming of a young girl was going to become a moment of truth, a real-life miracle, a manifestation that I never could have seen coming.

Flash forward approximately 10 years

from that day in the Catskills, my dance partner and I were performing at various parties and events. My dance career was in full bloom. One afternoon, we arrived early to a gig upstate. The theater was empty and still dark.

We stood on the stage waiting for the technician to bring up the lights, so we could begin our rehearsal.   As the lights came up, I could see out to the round tables and empty chairs, and something amazing happened.

I felt a rush inside me, then I felt everything slow down. I felt like I was transported back in time and I froze for a moment taking it all in.  

I could see her sitting there, eager, and excited, the wide-eyed, innocent, buck toothed girl. I could see her, that little version of me dreaming and wishing and wanting so badly to be the performer on that stage.   And in an instant — it all was crystal clear.

It happened, I was living a real-life miracle, manifested in my reality. I was on that very stage, in the very same resort! I was getting ready to perform to potentially another little girl who could be sitting in the audience dreaming of one-day.  

This memory fueled me in so many ways for years.   It was a life force which guided me and taught me to remember and continue seeking.  

Decades later it kept me going even when I was confused about who I was and found myself in the middle of a career transition.

That same life force comes into play like a silent partner when life throws sh** at us and we lose our way. Sometimes we can lose sight of our dreams.  We may even lose sight of our purpose.

In one the many phases of my career, I lost sight of the truth. I fell deep into transitions. I forgot the story. I forgot the truth of who I was at the core. But life… Life has so many beautiful ways of sending reminders, especially when we persevere and keep seeking and keep looking for our purpose, our calling, our path, our voice.

Passions for dance led me to a beautiful teaching career, which led me to creating an online businesses, which led me to learn how to do business in a new way that excited me, which ultimately led me to teaching and empowering others in business using all my combined gifts.

If I had tried to map it all out years ago, I surely would have missed the mark. Instead, one dream at a time, one step at a time, a little faith, some perseverance and continued seeking gifted me with a beautiful career and led me full circle back to my core each and every time I went astray.

I share this with you in hopes that you will remember your forgotten dreams. I believe in dreams coming true.

So, I encourage you to remember:  

Who you were.
Why you started.
Your drive.
The desire you want.
That deep hunger you crave.
And your dreams…

Remember what you forgot.  

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Because, at the core of you — is still the same You. You may feel defeated or bruised or disappointed. I know I have had these experiences along the way.  

Yet, there are always the moments that I remember who I am at the core. Life gives a little nudge and we remember who we always have been. In my core, I am that bright-eyed, enthusiastic believer who was in that audience all those years ago.  

Who are you at the core? Do you remember? She remembers you.

Look for those things that show up to remind you. Somethings just don’t change.

Here’s one of life’s little reminders of mine:


Patty at age 13 Patty at age 43

Inspiration is Everywhere!
Go…Create. Build. & Share.


Identity Magazine is all about guiding women to discover their power
s  of Self-Acceptance,  Appreciation, and Personal  Achievement.  We ask that every contributor and expert answer    the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the  current article they have written.  In that way, and as a team, we hope to  encourage  and motivate  each other, thus inspiring  you to Get All A’s.

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally?  Additionally, what are you  still working on accepting? Now, we’re not talking about resignation, rather stepping into, embraced, and owned.

It has taken me a long time to come to this understanding. I’ve always know the answers were inside. But, still, I used to credit others for knowing more or knowing better about what I needed. Guess what? Not true! I feel grateful to have acceptance that no one can answer THE questions for me better than I can for myself.

2. Appreciation is everything. What have you learned to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally?  On the other hand  OR in contrast,  are there elements of who you are that you’re still working on  appreciating?

I appreciate my support system and how much love I have in my life. I appreciate my success and the gift of entrepreneurship — roller coaster and all.

3. Share with us one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell us  not only  what makes YOU most proud  but also  share the  goals and dreams that you still have.

Last year marked a milestone celebration for me – 30 years as a self-employed entrepreneur. It was a fun and proud moment in time which all started when I took my very first dance class as a teenager.

In those 30 years, I have had many big and small achievements. The most important ones always included being part helping someone achieve a win. Whether it was a successful wedding dance, a fitness accomplishment, an exciting website launch, or a creative business ‘ah-ha’, the achievements shared and celebrated by others were among the sweetest.

4.  Of course, we  all have imperfections,  or  so we think.  In truth,  we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways?  Likewise,  what imperfections and quirks create who you are–your Identity?

I am a very deep and creative thinker which can cause delayed decision making and challenges with organization (mostly paper!) Ugh. But, on the flip side, I rarely regret the decisions I do make, and I have super creative approaches to life and business. So, thankfully, it all seems to all balance out in the long run.

5. “I Love My…” is an outlet for you to  appreciate and express  all the positive traits that make you…well…YOU!  In fact, sharing  what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (We assure you!)  Therefore,  Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

I love the complexity of me. The many & sometimes conflicting characteristics are at the core of who I am and how I function in my life as well as in my business. In the end, they all come together and make me, ME. The ones I am most proud of; kindness, compassion, creativity and a big heart.


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About the author

Patty Rose

I created this supportive community for creative, entrepreneurial women to collaborate and brainstorm. Here you will find the inspiration, resources and support you need to create the life and business of your dreams! I’m Patty Rose and it is my passion to share all that I have learned in creating a successful business. It is imperative that you realize you don’t have to go it alone. It’s much more fun and productive when you have the support of a community. I’m looking forward to getting to know what you want to create, helping you build your dreams and seeing your gifts shared with the world.

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