Hey Love, this is for you to discover at the core of who you really are. CoreÂ valuesÂ areÂ theÂ fundamentalÂ beliefsÂ ofÂ aÂ person and I’d love to talk about core values when it comes to passion andÂ entrepreneurial dreams. Do you realize that everything that you need to achieve them, you already have? This is a message about not giving up. I encourage you to use the tools you have to continue seeking, and you will find your way, your path, your dreams.
Ready? Letâ€™s get to the heart of it. Â
My dream began when I was a little girl at a convention with my family in the Catskills.
My father was the president of the Board of Gas Dealers, and I remember attending the convention annually. One year in particular changed my life so profoundly, but I wouldnâ€™t even know it for another decade.
The theater was dark, the curtains were drawn. I was a buck toothed, scraggly haired, extremely shy, 12-year-old, sitting in the front row at a small round table with my parents and my younger sister. The curtain opened, and as I watched the dance performance on the stage ahead, I was in awe.
I fell fast in love and I had a visceral, deep desire. I said to my mom so many times in just a few short minutes. â€œMom! I want to do that! I can do that! I want to be like them! I want to be like her!!!â€ I could feel it. I could sense it in every cell of my being. I wanted it at my core.
Who knew that this intense dreaming of a young girl was going to become a moment of truth, a real-life miracle, a manifestation that I never could have seen coming.
Flash forward approximately 10 years
from that day in the Catskills, my dance partner and I were performing at various parties and events. My dance career was in full bloom. One afternoon, we arrived early to a gig upstate. The theater was empty and still dark.
We stood on the stage waiting for the technician to bring up the lights, so we could begin our rehearsal.Â As the lights came up, I could see out to the round tables and empty chairs, and something amazing happened.
I felt a rush inside me, then I felt everything slow down. I felt like I was transported back in time and I froze for a moment taking it all in.Â
I could see her sitting there, eager, and excited, the wide-eyed, innocent, buck toothed girl. I could see her, that little version of me dreaming and wishing and wanting so badly to be the performer on that stage.Â And in an instant â€“ it all was crystal clear.
It happened, I was living a real-life miracle, manifested in my reality. I was on that very stage, in the very same resort! I was getting ready to perform to potentially another little girl who could be sitting in the audience dreaming of one-day.Â
This memory fueled me in so many ways for years.Â It was a life force which guided me and taught me to remember and continue seeking. Â
Decades later it kept me going even when I was confused about who I was and found myself in the middle of a career transition.
That same life force comes into play like a silent partner when life throws sh** at us and we lose our way. Sometimes we can lose sight of our dreams.Â We may even lose sight of our purpose.
In one the many phases of my career, I lost sight of the truth. I fell deep into transitions. I forgot the story. I forgot the truth of who I was at the core. But lifeâ€¦ Life has so many beautiful ways of sending reminders, especially when we persevere and keep seeking and keep looking for our purpose, our calling, our path, our voice.
Passions for dance led me to a beautiful teaching career, which led me to creating an online businesses, which led me to learn how to do business in a new way that excited me, which ultimately led me to teaching and empowering others in business using all my combined gifts.
If I had tried to map it all out years ago, I surely would have missed the mark. Instead, one dream at a time, one step at a time, a little faith, some perseverance and continued seeking gifted me with a beautiful career and led me full circle back to my core each and every time I went astray.
I share this with you in hopes that you will remember your forgotten dreams. I believe in dreams coming true.
So, I encourage you to remember:Â
Who you were.
Why you started.
The desire you want.
That deep hunger you crave.
And your dreamsâ€¦
Remember what you forgot. Â
Because, at the core of you â€“ is still the same You. You may feel defeated or bruised or disappointed. I know I have had these experiences along the way.Â
Yet, there are always the moments that I remember who I am at the core. Life gives a little nudge and we remember who we always have been. In my core, I am that bright-eyed, enthusiastic believer who was in that audience all those years ago.Â
Who are you at the core? Do you remember? She remembers you.
Look for those things that show up to remind you. Somethings just donâ€™t change.
Hereâ€™s one of lifeâ€™s little reminders of mine:
Patty at age 13 Patty at age 43
Inspiration is Everywhere!
Go…Create. Build. & Share.
Identity Magazine is all about guiding women to discover their powersÂ of Self-Acceptance,Â Appreciation, and PersonalÂ Achievement.Â We ask that every contributor and expert answerÂ Â the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with theÂ current article they have written.Â In that way, and as a team, we hope toÂ encourageÂ and motivateÂ each other, thus inspiringÂ you to Get All A’s.
1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally?Â Additionally, what are youÂ still working on accepting? Now, weâ€™re not talking about resignation, rather stepping into, embraced, and owned.
It has taken me a long time to come to this understanding. Iâ€™ve always know the answers were inside. But, still, I used to credit others for knowing more or knowing better about what I needed. Guess what? Not true! I feel grateful to have acceptance that no one can answer THE questions for me better than I can for myself.
2. Appreciation is everything. What have you learned to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally?Â On the other handÂ OR in contrast,Â are there elements of who you are that youâ€™re still working onÂ appreciating?
I appreciate my support system and how much love I have in my life. I appreciate my success and the gift of entrepreneurship â€“ roller coaster and all.
3. Share with us one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell usÂ not onlyÂ what makes YOU most proudÂ but alsoÂ share theÂ goals and dreams that you still have.
Last year marked a milestone celebration for me – 30 years as a self-employed entrepreneur. It was a fun and proud moment in time which all started when I took my very first dance class as a teenager.
In those 30 years, I have had many big and small achievements. The most important ones always included being part helping someone achieve a win. Whether it was a successful wedding dance, a fitness accomplishment, an exciting website launch, or a creative business â€˜ah-haâ€™, the achievements shared and celebrated by others were among the sweetest.
4.Â Of course, weÂ all have imperfections,Â orÂ so we think.Â In truth,Â we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways?Â Likewise,Â what imperfections and quirks create who you areâ€”your Identity?
I am a very deep and creative thinker which can cause delayed decision making and challenges with organization (mostly paper!) Ugh. But, on the flip side, I rarely regret the decisions I do make, and I have super creative approaches to life and business. So, thankfully, it all seems to all balance out in the long run.
5. â€œI Love Myâ€¦â€ is an outlet for you toÂ appreciate and expressÂ all the positive traits that make youâ€¦wellâ€¦YOU!Â In fact, sharingÂ what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (We assure you!)Â Therefore,Â Identity challenges you to complete the phrase â€œI Love Myâ€¦?â€
I love the complexity of me. The many & sometimes conflicting characteristics are at the core of who I am and how I function in my life as well as in my business. In the end, they all come together and make me, ME. The ones I am most proud of; kindness, compassion, creativity and a big heart.