How to Attract a Good Man

How to Attract a Good Man
How to Attract a Good Man
Written by Apollonia Ponti

The moment you let go of expectations, you will feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders that allows you to just enjoy the present moment.

In today’s day and age and after you’ve experienced disappointments in love, it can be easy to feel like there are no good men out there. I would like to reassure you and let you know that yes, they are still out there and it’s all about knowing how to attract a good man!

In this article, you are going to find the biggest do’s and don’ts in terms of attracting a good guy. You are in control of much more than you might realize, so let’s dive right in!  

4 powerful ways to attract the man you want 

1. Always ensure that you are a high-value person. 

Simply put, you have to be the type of person you want to attract. This is why it’s so important that you stick to your values and treat others the way that you wish to be treated. The Law of Attraction can also be applied to this concept because you are going to attract the same time of energy that you give out.

In addition to this, I want you to keep in mind that honesty is a powerful tool in your arsenal. As a woman, you hold so much power in being open with a man and setting the pace to get to know him on a deeper level.

So always respect your values and don’t jump into a relationship just because you want to be with someone. Show him that you are OK with taking your time with this and letting it naturally develop into something special.  

2. Respect & Communication 

Men love a woman who enjoys and respects his presence and is able to communicate thoroughly. For the right man, this is a breath of fresh air! If a guy does not value communication, it can lead to problems later on down the line in your relationship.

Relationships and partnerships are about building each other up, so present yourself as a woman who can acknowledge a man and appreciate his role in a relationship. 

3. Say goodbye to the wrong ones fast! 

It’s important to bear in mind that even if you do the work to attract a good man, the wrong type of guy will most likely still be attracted to you as well. So it’s not so much that we will never attract the wrong guys; it’s about how good we get at saying “Goodbye” to the wrong guys and “Hello” to the right ones! 

If you’re reading this article right now, then I’m sure you’ve experienced some disappointments in love. The silver lining of that is that you are probably able to spot the signs that a guy is wrong for you from a mile away now! 

4. Let go of expectations 

Ah, this is a tough one. I see people all around me comparing themselves to others. “I’m thirty years old and single when everyone around me is married and having kids…” We live in a word full of comparison and this is how we let ourselves down and become disheartened. Just remember that this isn’t a race, each person has their own story, and isn’t it better to wait for the right one than be unhappy with the wrong one? 

The moment you let go of expectations, you will feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders that allows you to just enjoy the present moment. In turn, this will make it easier to be your charming self and therefore attract the right guy! 

What to avoid if you want to find a good man

If you want to find someone sincere, you have to allow yourself to be vulnerable. I know it’s scary, especially if you’ve had your heart broken in the past, but just focus on what exactly it is that you want instead of what he wants. Many times we start dating and develop feelings for someone only to find out that he isn’t actually looking for a serious relationship. 

Don’t hide away behind walls. Instead, allow him to see that you are in a constant state of growth and are creating the life for yourself that you’ve always wanted. This will attract a quality man into your life! Men love when they find someone with whom they can build a life. 

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? Additionally, what are you still working on accepting? Now, we’re not talking about resignation, rather stepping into, embraced, and owned.

I have accepted that everyone is on a different path and it has helped me to curb my tendencies to compare myself with others. Up until a few years ago I felt like I needed to be on the same “level” or stage of life as the people around me, but the moment I let go of that expectation, I was able to focus on making my dreams a reality and I’m much happier and fulfilled today than I ever realized I could be!

2. Appreciation is everything. What have you learned to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? On the other hand OR in contrast, are there elements of who you are that you’re still working on appreciating?

I’ve developed a very loving relationship with my intuition. My life experiences have shaped it and I am now able to tune in to it with ease, and it has served me very well! The element within myself that I am still working on currently is carving more time out to allow myself to rest.

Because I am passionate about my work, it’s easy to lose track of the hours but I am  making an effort  to set aside time to rest and be gentle with myself.  

3. Share with us one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell us not only what makes YOU most proud but also share the goals and dreams that you still have.

I would have to say that my most rewarding achievement is my business. I left my position as a Vice President in a corporate company where I was making six figures a year to launch my own company, and I am so happy that I found the courage and motivation to do it. Now that it is thriving, I believe in the power of making my dreams come true even more.

My goal is to make it continue to grow so that I can get in touch with more people all around the world and help them find true happiness in life.

Photo by Matheus Lira on Unsplash

About the author

How to Attract a Good Man

Apollonia Ponti

Apollonia Ponti, an international certified coach and founder of She works with men to attract the man or woman they desire, build confidence, master their attraction skills and helps rebuild relationships. You can find her expert advice and other core professional services, through her YouTube Channel, and

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