The Setback Struggle is Real

The Setback Struggle is Real
I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.
Written by Susan Vernicek

Throwing it back to my twin’s 1st birthday party and my bells palsy in full force. You can see my eye is barely open, sexy huh? I remember feeling so shitty that day. 

Of course, I was excited because my twins were now one and I kept not one baby alive, but two and that was my biggest fear as a new mom. In addition, my husband Rob and I hit another milestone together as a team, raising children and thank God because we couldn’t manage to train a dog together, LOL.  

But at the same time, I was dying inside with back pain and the discomfort and embarrassment of bells palsy. I was just trying to survive the day and enjoy the company of loved ones.

Today, my bells are pretty manageable most of the time, you can see in the right picture, it’s open—yippee.  How?  I have nutrition and sleep to thank for healing my bells as I implemented a simple system that is sustainable!

The Setback

This Thursday, today I’m currently struggling with lower back pain as I injured myself AGAIN and I feel like shit. 

I’m aware of all that I need to be doing and I’m implementing those things. I’ve gone to the doctor, booked my PT, stretching, icing and all that jazz.  But I still feel bummed and a tag defeated as it’s been 9 days since my last workout and my mental health and mood have been triggered a bit. 

I went over 3 years, no injuries and had developed a kick-ass nutrition plan and fitness strategy — never missing more than 2 days in a row.  I was on a freakin’ roll people!  It felt so amazing, freeing, and rewarding to be in control and to be experiencing a nice lifestyle groove.

Until BAM. I pushed myself too hard in one week.  That dang overachiever in me…

I ran 4 miles one day
The following day a 4-hour hike
The 3rd day, I had maggots in my garage, I know, freakin’ disgusting and that took me 7 hours to clean. 
The 4th day, which was the weekend, I did about 15 loads of laundry and I have 3 floors to climb up and down
And on top of that, some fun lovin’ between the hubs and I, LOL TMI?  

I woke up Sunday morning not being able to move.  I didn’t listen to my body because I was hurting by Friday night.  I blew it off because I just thought I was tired and I knew I had to finish all the house chores to “feel accomplished” and ready for Monday. How many of you do that?  I didn’t ask for help, I didn’t even ask my husband for help. When will I learn? LOL. 

NOW. I claim NOW. I surrender the Universe. I can’t repeat this pattern again and I’m making a promise to ask for more help when I feel the slightest injury or discomfort building up.   I will be more proactive with that.. instead of being forced to be reactive like I am now.  Make sense?   

I’m a Mindset Igniter + Coach—this has been my career for years and I share so that you understand that as coaches, we too have to do the work.

The work, the ask, and the healing will always be part of our journey. 

Accept and Ask for Help

We must accept responsibility to be kind to our minds and bodies and ask for help. We must APPRECIATE the lessons, the highs, and lows so that we can ACHIEVE on a more connected level and on a quicker path. 

If you’re struggling with an obstacle, how are you accepting responsibility to heal, shift and learn from it?

We ask that every contributor and expert answer the Identity questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the current article they have written. In that way, and as a team, we hope to encourage and motivate each other, thus inspiring you to Get All A’s.

What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? Additionally, what are you still working on accepting? Now, we’re not talking about resignation, rather stepping into, embraced, and owned.

I’ve become accepting of my imperfect “mom tactics”. It’s such a mental game being a mother because you constantly worry about doing the right thing, saying the right thing. However, all the previous mothers are right, we do the best we can. The most important is showing love and kindness and teaching our kids that.

I’m always working on less yelling and stronger communication with my twins.

Appreciation is everything. What have you learned to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? On the other hand OR in contrast, are there elements of who you are that you’re still working on appreciating?

I so appreciate being a mother and the Universe giving me the opportunity to be a mom. I’ve experienced a messy miscarriage and the blessing to then have spontaneous twins… that’s a miracle I won’t take for granted.

Share with us one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell us not only what makes YOU most proud but also share the goals and dreams that you still have.

In addition to this little mom win this week, I’m so proud of surviving and thriving the first 5 years as a Mom. I’m proud of my husband and our communication and our promise to support one another. It’s not perfect, but both of us put the effort in.

About the author

I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.

Susan Vernicek

Mindset Coach, Susan Vernicek ignites and empowers Mompreneurs who struggle to discover their balance between MomLife + BizLife. For over a decade she's been helping them create a winning Mompreneur Mindset so that they can consciously thrive at home and KILL IT in business —without feeling guilty and letting go of the comparison game.

With 14 years of experience and overcoming her own emotional, financial, and physical rock bottom, she's now thriving as a Mompreneur.

She's not just a mindset coach and igniter, she's known as the Mindset + Achieve™ coach, a #1 Amazon Bestseller, and Speaker. Move from autopilot to achieving in MomLife + BizLife! To connect directly, please Email Susan at

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