Love, Marriage, and Babies, Oh My!

Love, Marriage, and Babies, Oh My!
I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.
Written by Susan Vernicek

I’ve done crazy things for love. What about you? I’ve had many uncomfortable conversations for breakthroughs in my marriage, and I’ve done everything I’ve had for my babies.

Think about it. 

Many of us will do crazy things for love and marriage—especially when you lack confidence and self-love. When we lack in certain areas, we tend to really search for that emotional need and acceptance everywhere else but within.  

I’ve been there, done that. 

I may or may not have stalked a few boyfriends back in my day.

I DID allow a boyfriend to verbally and mentally abuse me.  All because I didn’t think I deserved to be treated better. And that goes back to my history with thinking I was “a bad person”.

I was doing and allowing unacceptable behavior from all angles. 

Oh, my babies though.  I would do whatever needs to be done to keep them safe, loved, fed, and healthy. When they were newborns I cried all through the night nursing my twins as long as I could, even though I hated it.

I pureed their food as infants, even with that being annoying, and whenever Rob and I doubted in how we were going to support and afford twins, we would always rise to the occasion and figure it out. We thrived—well, let’s be honest, we survived and thrived over the past five years!

Take some time to reflect on your life. 

School, sports, awards, career, promotions, business, weight loss, confidence, and any other area you know you’ve experienced success or you know you rose to the occasion.

Dig, what did you do to get there?

What did you do to make that team, graduate college, and get your first job? And what did ya have to do to get that promotion, lose that weight, publish that book, start your biz, earn your first $1,000 as a business owner or what did you do to keep your marriage healthy, or your child safe?

I bet you went that extra mile, huh?  I bet you dug deep to get what you wanted right? Maybe you woke up at 5 am to fit in your fitness, or you worked those late hours to prove you’re ready for that opening management position. Or you found a way to save $100 a month for your child.  

I’ve done all of these. I remember thinking, I don’t have $100 to put away each month for the kids. Then, I remember thinking, do it, get uncomfortable and just make sure you have it every month. So whatever I needed to do to ensure I had the extra $100 for my twins, I did.  5 Years later, I’m still putting $100 every month away for them and that’s in addition to the 529B savings we put aside for them.

We all have the capacity to DIG REAL DEEP if we haven’t already throughout our entire lives. 

I’ve been studying, implementing and discovering the patterns that many top leaders share. It’s about being connected to your WHY and envisioning how it will impact you and a step further, who else will benefit and impact as you grow.

Weight loss is always a great example because the majority of people will throw out a number that they want to lose. But, WHY that amount? Why 10 pounds? It’s not a strong enough case.

What does it mean to lose 10 pounds?  Does it mean you get off medication? Then being off that medication releases you from those side effects? Which then helps you experience more consistent energy and moods? Does losing 10 pounds mean you can get on the ground and play with your children? 


My WHY started back in 2006 and then naturally, my WHY continues to build and evolve. 

I have many WHY’s now that are empowering me to live my best life.

Continue to heal and keep my mental health on the right track
Never think about suicide again
To not have to start over again
Inspire and motivate other women by sharing my stories so they don’t feel alone in their struggles
Have more purpose in life bigger than myself
Help women create the business they desire

Plus, when I accepted to work on healing, I thought about how I have family to show up for and support. Then I met Rob, then marriage and then babies were added to my WHY. 

Then I got injured and developed bell’s palsy, that’s when taking my health to the next level became another WHY. 

Earning a living and growing my business so that Rob and I can achieve more and more of our dreams together, liking working together and traveling whenever we want with the twins.

Are you picking up what I’m putting down?

And I invest my time, energy, money, resources, and love into it all. Whatever it is I want, I figure out the next best step and go from there. Just like I do as a mom and a wife.  I’m no pro…but I’m going to do what it takes to be the best mom and wife. 

So why wouldn’t I do whatever it takes to be the best for me, feel the best for me—and ACHIEVE?

What are you doing to experience your best self and best life? And yes, our success, best self, and best life come at a price.  

The price of our INVESTMENTS in TIME, ENERGY, EFFORT, LOVE, AND MONEY. If you don’t make the effort, practice patience, love what you’re doing, ask for help, pay for help (books, workshops, courses, coaches, therapy, gyms) or lacking energy, you’ll struggle over and over. 

It’s okay not to have it ALL figured out. The answers will unravel as you move ahead. Just like you did when you wanted to find love, or get married, find your dream job, and/or have a baby.

You’ve got this! Accept that you are capable of achieving and create an appreciation for the journey so you have FUN.

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Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the current article they have written. In that way, and as a team, we hope to encourage and motivate each other, thus inspiring you to Get All A’s.

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? Additionally, what are you still working on accepting? Now, we’re not talking about resignation, rather stepping into, embraced, and owned.

I’ve learned to accept the responsibility that when I say “I can’t, it means I won’t or don’t want.” We can do anything if we REALLY want it. I’m always working on accepting the change of seasons as a mother, wife and business owner.

2. Appreciation is everything. What have you learned to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? On the other hand OR in contrast, are there elements of who you are that you’re still working on appreciating?

I appreciate the digital life and how there is so much opportunity out there for all of us to succeed and grow.

3. Share with us one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell us not only what makes YOU most proud but also share the goals and dreams that you still have.

This life, being a mother and a wife. I’m extremely blessed and proud of the effort and energy I continue to give it and provide. I enjoy it and continue to grow every day.

About the author

I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.

Susan Vernicek

Mindset Coach, Susan Vernicek ignites and empowers Mompreneurs who struggle to discover their balance between MomLife + BizLife. For over a decade she's been helping them create a winning Mompreneur Mindset so that they can consciously thrive at home and KILL IT in business —without feeling guilty and letting go of the comparison game.

With 14 years of experience and overcoming her own emotional, financial, and physical rock bottom, she's now thriving as a Mompreneur.

She's not just a mindset coach and igniter, she's known as the Mindset + Achieve™ coach, a #1 Amazon Bestseller, and Speaker. Move from autopilot to achieving in MomLife + BizLife! To connect directly, please Email Susan at

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