Is Life Supposed to Be This Hard?

Mindset Igniter + Coach Susan Vernicek
I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.
Written by Susan Vernicek

Years ago I remember thinking, “I wonder if I’ll ever be happy…”

It’s Tuesday and my son Cade is out at school and poor June is on Day 6 with a fever—is life supposed to be this hard?

I’m waiting by the phone as I have a call into our doctor again. I hear that the fever just needs to break, but I’m worried and for my peace, I’ll bug the doctor again 🙂 Do ya feel me? 

This morning I started day 2 of my fitness routine again. It’s been 3 months since my last workout and I’m committing to a new, full-body, low impact program. ( if you need a fitness plan, click here so we can chat)

You know 2020 is going to be a challenge, right?

Is Life Supposed to Be This Hard?

Last year, our family faced the same viruses—over and over and we managed to still thrive and achieve goals.

Do you really expect a smooth life?
Do you really expect things to be given to you?
Do you really not want to work hard for things you want?

You have sooooo many goals and dreams. You know your actions need to shift, deepen and strengthen to improve.

That’s the obvious right?

You want to learn new skills, get clear and focused, be confident, drop the comparison game, and not worry what others will think when you go after what you want.

I just experienced a shitton of chaos in closing out 2019 and entering 2020. All I can do is laugh and ask the Universe to get to the lesson already, LOL.

As you try to change and grow, there’s going to be stress, kids sick, you sick, schedules being rearranged and you’ve got to be willing to accept that—and ready to adapt and pivot so you don’t get thrown off your game.

• Others will doubt you, that’s common
• You’ll doubt yourself, that’s normal
• You’ll cry, scream, binge eat, sleep or maybe even drink a bit too much….
• You’ll get discouraged and frustrated for sure because you’ll “fail” or hit an obstacle—and…

When that happens, celebrate and remember that you’re shaking things up and it’s growing pains.

I get having rough times
I get having bad choices
I get not wanting to get out of bed
I get eating stress away
I get drinking chaos away

I keep pushing myself to be vulnerable so that I can share this deep inner desire to ignite and inspire so many of you.

This feeling is difficult for me to communicate and I’m practicing and learning, I promise. 🙂

I went big last year in serving and creating opportunities to serve on a bigger scale. It was probably the biggest year of growth since I left my full-time job back in 2010.

I got sick more often because I was pushing my mind and efforts…
I got injured because I pushed my workouts and jumping with a bad back seemed to not matter, LOL.

I spent thousands on training and coaches

That’s a LOT for a girl from Wharton, NJ who thought she was not smart enough to be a business owner or capable of even being happy.

Years ago I remember thinking, “I wonder if I’ll ever be happy…” Then after the hard work and starting my biz I’d think “ I wonder when I’ll be able to keep at least $100 in my account” Then it was “I wonder when I’ll always have $1,000” in my account”, Or “I wonder when I’ll look in the mirror and love what I see”…

ALL of these thoughts are part of my growth and I have new thoughts now after reaching all of those—the #thoughtdrama always grows, you just get better at managing it.

There were a lot of moments where I thought…

“Am I on the right path?”
“Am I really helping others?”
“How can I do this better?”
“Why do I feel stuck?”
“Am I too selfish?”
“Am I a good Mother?”
“Am I a Good Wife?”
“Am I a good coach?”
“Why did I drink that much last night?” 😉


• Starting is SCARY
• Change is HARD
• Commitment seems PERMANENT

Manifesting your emotional, physical and career dreams/desires, takes effort, action, accountability, and a FIRST STEP.

Your lifestyle, dreams, improving your relationships, love, confidence, fulfillment…

Isn’t it all worth the effort?

I know I love helping women who know they will “survive and thrive” through the year and I want to work with you. I want to be your #1 cheerleading and get you IGNITED and ACHIEVING.

Because, through all the obstacles, I also experienced a shitton of adventure, fun, new friendships, collaborations, and great conversations.

So I, of course, invite you to learn more about how I can support you at and if you have ANY questions, you can simply message me and I’ll respond as soon as I can. Xoxoxo

Let’s Ignite Your Focus and Actions!

Mindset Igniter + Coach, Susan Vernicek

About the author

I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.

Susan Vernicek

Mindset Coach, Susan Vernicek ignites and empowers Mompreneurs who struggle to discover their balance between MomLife + BizLife. For over a decade she's been helping them create a winning Mompreneur Mindset so that they can consciously thrive at home and KILL IT in business —without feeling guilty and letting go of the comparison game.

With 14 years of experience and overcoming her own emotional, financial, and physical rock bottom, she's now thriving as a Mompreneur.

She's not just a mindset coach and igniter, she's known as the Mindset + Achieve™ coach, a #1 Amazon Bestseller, and Speaker. Move from autopilot to achieving in MomLife + BizLife! To connect directly, please Email Susan at

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