I’ve got a little birth story for ya and some inspo (aka inspiration) this morning…even if you’re not a mother, hear me out.
It was the morning of and I was pretty calm. So calm that I took my “38 weeks, today is the day!” selfie photo and Rob and I went on our way. We had a long hour drive to get to our hospital where I’d be induced around 9:00 am.
Both of us still pretty darn calm as we got settled into the room. We whipped out our laptop and starting finishing our Dexter Netflix binge.
Honestly, I still pray my twins are not serial killers from Rob and I watching, not 2, 3 or 4 hours of Dexter, but EIGHT (8) hours of that show. LOL, we laugh to this day about that.
I had maybe an hour break of extraordinary pain because I said no to the epidural and then when I wanted it, I had to wait for the doc to return, which was an hour + later. So I dropped a few F-bombs and tried not to think about killing Rob while I was being tortured. Oh, good times.
It was about 8:45 pm when I was taken to an operating room, for vaginal delivery. (Yup, I said vaginal in my newsletter) But because I was having twins, it had to be in an operating room just in case.
I was surrounded by doctors and Rob had to stand by my head, which was better for him because he almost passes out every time he sees blood or needles. So weak. HA
Next thing I know I had one baby, Baby A which was June. I swear, I didn’t feel a thing and didn’t even know I was pushing, LOL. Then 14 minutes later, Baby Cade came screaming his way out and now they are complete opposites, June is the loud one and Cade is calm and cool.
Here’s the thing, when it comes to Motherhood, I hang onto the confidence I had while carrying the twins for 9 months and delivering them that day. I took care of myself the best I could and took action in preparing myself the best I could without getting wrapped up in too much of “what to expect”.
Frankly, I expected it was going to be hard as sh*t to carry twins for 9 months, deliver, and be a Mother. And, I expected motherhood was going to take soooo much effort, strength, emotions, fear, love—every ounce of emotion and being out of me. I was confident in that, accepted it, and am still embracing the “hard as sh*t effort”.
In my belief or opinion, Motherhood is all about our own confidence.
Sure, we are human and confidence is a muscle to be worked. But boy, it feels so good when you grab ahold of your very own and conquer your world with it.
Are ya with me?
And if you’re not a mother, and if you know me, you’ll know that I’m gonna say confidence is key for you too.
What gives us confidence?
Belief, Action, and Knowledge…
Belief, action, and knowledge give us confidence in motherhood, relationships, career, and everything.
Since being a mother, one of the biggest things I’ve had to work on is confidence. It seems that every situation, circumstance, struggle, or fear that I experience—it always leads to a lack of confidence. When I feel that lack of confidence, I think about my belief at that moment, I reflect on what kind of actions I can take and what knowledge can I learn to gain the confidence I need?
It all comes down to YOU and YOUR MIND.
Motherhood can be scary but if you believe that you’ll take all the action necessary to achieve and do your best, then you should have confidence. Right?
Do you trust and believe that you’ll do what it takes?
I have no fear in the way I parent because I know I’m doing the best I can with what I know every single day. I push to learn more so I have the knowledge and take more action so I build belief and strengthen my confidence every day as the curve balls come my way.
I’ve been saying this for years. Confidence is not a destination, motherhood is not a destination, love is not a destination, belief is not a destination—It’s all a journey and muscles to be worked.
And nobody should feel alone on this journey—we should all have support without judgment from others.
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What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? Additionally, what are you still working on accepting? Now, we’re not talking about resignation, rather stepping into, embraced, and owned.
I’ve learned to accept the responsibility for my results. With nutrition, weight loss, muscle gain, business success, marriage communication, etc. What effort am I giving and is it consistent?
Appreciation is everything. What have you learned to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? On the other hand OR in contrast, are there elements of who you are that you’re still working on appreciating?
I appreciate the digital life and how there is so much opportunity. There are so many ways for all of us to learn from one another, succeed and grow. I appreciate my coaches who push me to discover my powers.
Share with us one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell us not only what makes YOU most proud but also share the goals and dreams that you still have.
This life, being a mother and a wife. I’m extremely blessed and proud of the effort and energy I continue to give it and provide. I enjoy it and continue to grow every day.