The modern dating scene is home to a lot of ambiguity and confusion. As gender roles continue to become more and more blurred, women become increasingly unsure of how to handle certain situations.
These days, anyone is free to ask anyone out. Suddenly, we’re stressing over things like who should be picking up the tab, or whether or not you have to wait a certain number of hours before sending a followup text. You don’t want to seem too eager, do you? Yadda, yadda, yadda.
If you’re sick of getting disappointed by your dating life, forget about traditional dating rules. But hey, even some of those so-called “modern” dating practices are not to be followed, either.
Instead, consider the following real-life dating tips. These little nuggets of romantic wisdom might just be what you need to find true love.
Control your destiny
Disappointments happen when you let your dating life happen to you instead of you actually taking control of it. While the idea of sitting back and letting “destiny” do its magic sounds amazing, things simply don’t work that way in real life.
The practical, modern woman understands that dating takes time, effort, and energy. You can’t just slack off and expect life to hand over your ideal partner.
From now on, really take control of your romantic life. Take time to develop a dating strategy that works for you, and then commit to it. And nope, waiting for Prince Charming doesn’t count!
Embrace new experiences
If you’ve been looking for the ideal partner for a while now but are yet to find success, then you’re probably looking in the wrong places.
Sure, a lot of people meet their partners in the usual settings, like school, work, bars, clubs, or through their friends and family. But if we’re being practical here, expanding your circle and trying out new things could be good for your dating life, as well.
Who knows? You might cross paths with your future S.O. as you’re volunteering at your local nonprofit. They could be waiting to meet you at a half marathon, or even in that art class that you’ve been eyeing for a while now.
If you find yourself getting stuck with the same old disappointing results, it’s probably because you insist on sticking to the same old places. If you don’t expand your horizons and embrace new experiences, you could be missing out on opportunities to meet amazing people.
Don’t be afraid of dating apps
In spite of living in the digital age, a lot of women still feel iffy about telling their friends and family that they met their S.O. on an app. However, there’s just no denying it: apps are the present and future of modern dating.
More and more people turn to dating apps like Tinder to look for partners, so there’s no better time to jump into the bandwagon than now. And if your friends are family aren’t huge fans of online dating, who cares?
It’s your romantic life at stake, not theirs. And if you really want to be practical, you’re more likely to meet someone suitable online than in person. Also, dating apps are continually implementing more safety features if that’s what you’re worried about.
Another awesome thing about dating apps is that there’s literally one for every preference – whether you’re looking for something geared towards mature relationships, LGBT connections, or even an app for polygamists. In today’s world of endless options, you can choose which apps you want to engage in.
And if you really want to be in control (hey, we really pushed this concept in the previous section, after all), you can even check if someone you’re interested in IRL is on Tinder by doing a Tinder search of their name.
Cut ties early on
If you’re looking for a serious relationship but the person you’re seeing says that he just wants to have some fun, take his word for it – no matter how much you like him. If you keep on going out with him hoping he’ll change his mind, you’ll end up wasting your time.
When it’s clear that you and the person you like don’t want the same things, it’s best to cut ties early on. To let go is to make yourself available to someone who wants the same things out of a relationship as you.
So, which practical dating tips are you looking forward to implementing in your life? Share them in the comments below!
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