MomLife Advice on How to Navigate and Control Chaos

Oh, MomLife on a calm Sunday—not.

It’s Sunday morning and I’m reflecting while I torture the kids to finish the last bit of schoolwork they missed while we were on vacation 😉

Do you ever experience waking up and you feel like you’ve run into a crowd of chaos? Ever since we went on vacation everything is in order for my business, and the house is clean and the laundry is done, but…

This dang schoolwork and the twins ganging up on me is driving me nuts.  LOL.  I already had to find my hidden phone, find the hidden mouses that they hid so they didn’t have to do their work, and pretty much threaten to take away everything if they didn’t get to work. HA.

It’s like we had this conversation and managed it the other day, and now, back at square one. 

On mornings and days like these, I’m so grateful for the strategies I have to help me unravel the chaos and disperse them into the hidden cracks within my house. 

I’m human just like you and emotions always try to creep the F in…. Anxiety, frustration, overwhelmed, tapped out of all the responsibilities this MomLife has, right?

With that, I’m reminded that I’m lucky to have my brain because although it sometimes feels like it’s working against me, I know it’s the game-changer when I use it intentionally.  

I know that my MomLife + BizLife won’t always be in sync. Right now, business is flowing so smoothly and MomLife is chaos—especially after vacation.

Who knows, next month I will be knee-deep in launching my Podcast that I’ll have an entire crowd of thought drama, biz drama, and obstacles to battle.

I’m not good enough for a Podcast

It’s too much work right now

How will I find quiet time to record quality audio

What will I share

How much do I share

Will this ruin my marriage in any way…

It all comes back to my brain. 

I use my A-Game formula to take back control. It’s journaling, a thought-release process paired with another model I’m trained on.  Together, the two are freakin’ game-changer. 

Because it puts me back in control—no wallowing in a victim mentality.

Then, I get to read and review what I’ve released through my formula + model.

Then, I review what I want to focus on and what decision I want to make next.

Then I make a decision on how I want to feel, accept, appreciate, and how I want to keep achieving.

And I make sure I like my decision, embrace and trust my decision.

Yes, I know… my brain will question it all. 

Can you relate?  

You make decisions, then question it, over and over.

And that feels terrible–it’s so not cute or fun.

I don’t want that for me or you.

We make a decision and love it and then what seems like immediately, we can get pulled back into the tailspin of making the decision again.

So instead of allowing myself to go back there, I remind myself and my brain that not only are my Momlife + BizLife decisions only right or wrong if I decide they are.

But that the decisions I make have no relevance to the person I am, my worth, or my value.

None whatsoever.

I can lovingly remind it that not only will I decide that whatever decision I make is the best one for me at this moment, but the outcome of that decision has nothing to do with me as a Mom or Entrepreneur.

My value and worth and amazingness are always 100% no matter what.

And no matter what, I am going to love myself and have my own back every step of the way— both in MomLife + BizLife.

If you are noticing fear, anxiety, or worry about making a decision right now, notice if you are putting pressure on yourself to make the “right” decision. 

Then ask yourself, what if there is no such thing as a “right” or “wrong” decision and instead there are just decisions—all day, every day in both your personal and professional life.

You have 100% control to decide from here on out that no matter what decision you make, no matter if you change your mind, you’re always making the best decision.

Identity Magazine is all about guiding women to discover their powers of Self-Acceptance, Appreciation, and Personal Achievement.

We ask that every contributor and expert answer the Identity questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the current article they have written. In that way, and as a team, we hope to encourage and motivate each other, thus inspiring you to Get All A’s.

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? Additionally, what are you still working on accepting? Now, we’re not talking about resignation, rather stepping into, embraced, and owned.

I’ve accepted emotions and feelings for what they are. I embrace them instead of trying to resist them. I’ve mastered how to navigation and that is rewarding.

2. Appreciation is everything. What have you learned to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? On the other hand OR in contrast, are there elements of who you are that you’re still working on appreciating?

I appreciate the tools I’ve developed and have learned in order to THRIVE in my MomLife + KILL IT in BizLife.

3. Share with us one of your most rewarding achievements in life? Tell us not only what makes YOU most proud but also share the goals and dreams that you still have.

I’ve arrived and my own balance. That is everything.