The Guilt of Wanting to Escape Your Overwhelming Day-to-Day Life

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I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.
Written by Susan Vernicek

Do you ever feel that if you want to go away for a girls’ weekend, a retreat, or even just to a hotel to be alone that you’re escaping— and then that doesn’t feel good, so you feel guilty?

Isn’t it interesting how our minds create all this commotion within seconds? Then you think about what other people will think about you leaving your family, right? 

If that’s the case, this is a sign that you’re actually worried about what other people think about you and your decisions. Technically, you are judging them before they judge you. 

It’s all one big “judge-fest”! And it needs to stop, right?

No More Guilt or Judgement

I know this all too well because I once allowed this drama to happen within my life and I coach my clients on it all the time. You’re human, I’m human—this stuff happens, but it can be managed.

My husband gets triggered when I say escape as if I want to leave them. However, I have an entirely opposite thought about “escape”. 

Here’s the truth.  Retreats, weekend getaways, conferences, and hotel nights IS AN ESCAPE and I have no shame in accepting that thought and embracing that feeling. 

Escape is neutral. It’s what we think about it that changes it. 

I want to escape and feel free of the dog poop clean up, making food and snacks all day, and getting my twins ready for school, soccer practice, and then bed—on repeat.

So yes, I want an escape from my overwhelming, routine days from time to time. Do I want to leave and run away, heck no—I love my full life.  

There was a time my escape meant binge eating all the cookies with milk, booze, and sleep. I wanted to run, hide, and numb. 

Now my escapes are about reflection, rejuvenation, connection, community, and support—and that is a healthy escape. I have a healthier relationship with what escape means to me, judgment-free.  

I’m not escaping to leave, but I’m escaping to continue to be the best version of myself for my MomLife + BizLife.

I deserve that. My husband deserves that. You deserve that too. 

When is your next escape?

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About the author

I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.

Susan Vernicek

Mindset Coach, Susan Vernicek ignites and empowers Mompreneurs who struggle to discover their balance between MomLife + BizLife. For over a decade she's been helping them create a winning Mompreneur Mindset so that they can consciously thrive at home and KILL IT in business —without feeling guilty and letting go of the comparison game.

With 14 years of experience and overcoming her own emotional, financial, and physical rock bottom, she's now thriving as a Mompreneur.

She's not just a mindset coach and igniter, she's known as the Mindset + Achieve™ coach, a #1 Amazon Bestseller, and Speaker. Move from autopilot to achieving in MomLife + BizLife! To connect directly, please Email Susan at

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