How to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Create More Success

How to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Create More Success
I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.
Written by Susan Vernicek

The great news is that you can experience success with self-sabotaging habits.

Yes, you have ALL the things to juggle, I’m with you and self-sabotaging is for real. The great news is that you can experience success with self-sabotaging habits. However, we want to work to minimize them so you can achieve your highest self.

It’s busy, you’re busy, your kids are busy, and you’ve got all the things like dinner, sports, water bottles to find, laundry to switch for the fifth time, and the dishes are piling. So you decide to throw all your needs out the door because it’s too hard and you don’t have much help or support.

But, it’s time to stop using LIFE against yourself.

How to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Create More Success

In order to stop the pattern of working against yourself and learning to work with what you have; involves a combination of self-awareness, self-acceptanceappreciation, and strategic decision-making so that you create the routine of achieving.

I’ve got some steps to help you start making this shift toward success and less self-sabotaging:

Self-Reflection and Awareness:

Take some time to reflect on your goals, values, strengths, and weaknesses. Understanding yourself better is the first step in making positive changes. Identify areas where you feel you might be working against yourself. Are there self-sabotaging behaviors or thought patterns holding you back?

Set Realistic Goals:

Be honest with yourself about what you can realistically achieve with your current resources, skills, and circumstances. Set achievable, specific, and measurable goals that align with your values and capabilities.

Accept Where You Are:

Acceptance doesn’t mean complacency. It means acknowledging your current situation without judgment or self-criticism. You can’t change the past, but you can shape the future.

Avoid comparing yourself to others. Everyone has their unique path and challenges.

Leverage Your Strengths:

Identify your strengths and find ways to leverage them in your pursuits. These can be skills, talents, or personal qualities.

Focus on what you excel at and use it to your advantage.

Address Weaknesses:

Instead of dwelling on weaknesses, work on improving them. This might involve acquiring new skills, seeking mentorship, or developing a growth mindset.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help or seek resources that can aid in your personal development.

Mindset Shift:

Replace self-defeating thoughts with positive affirmations and a growth-oriented mindset.

Challenge negative self-talk.

Practice self-compassion and treat yourself with the same kindness and encouragement you would offer a friend.

Create a Plan:

Develop a clear plan or strategy to achieve your goals. Break your goals into smaller, manageable steps.

Use your strengths to your advantage in crafting your plan.

Stay Flexible:

Be prepared to adapt your plans as circumstances change. Life is often unpredictable, and being rigid can lead to frustration.

Seek Support:

Surround yourself with supportive people who believe in your abilities and can provide guidance and encouragement.

Consider seeking professional help, such as therapy or coaching, if you struggle with self-sabotaging behaviors.

Celebrate Progress:

Acknowledge and celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem. Positive reinforcement can help maintain motivation.

Practice Patience:

Understand that progress takes time and never ends. Be patient with yourself and keep your long-term goals in mind.

The journey of working with what you have and stopping self-sabotage is ongoing.

It requires self-awareness, persistence, and a commitment to personal growth. Over time, you can make significant positive changes in your life by embracing your strengths and addressing your weaknesses in a constructive way.

I guide and help you with this inside the Mindset + Achieve™ Course and Coaching Program!

See you inside!

About the author

I’ve experienced imposter syndrome and so has pretty much every Mompreneur going after what she wants.

Susan Vernicek

Mindset Coach, Susan Vernicek ignites and empowers Mompreneurs who struggle to discover their balance between MomLife + BizLife. For over a decade she's been helping them create a winning Mompreneur Mindset so that they can consciously thrive at home and KILL IT in business —without feeling guilty and letting go of the comparison game.

With 14 years of experience and overcoming her own emotional, financial, and physical rock bottom, she's now thriving as a Mompreneur.

She's not just a mindset coach and igniter, she's known as the Mindset + Achieve™ coach, a #1 Amazon Bestseller, and Speaker. Move from autopilot to achieving in MomLife + BizLife! To connect directly, please Email Susan at

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